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Re: Jumping in (1st post)
Gypsy #1787351 06/22/09 07:12 PM
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Hey, Gypsy
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
If I feel it's the right thing, the answer is yes.
If I know it's the wrong thing, the answer is no.
If I can't decide or waffle, the answer is no.


This is good (esp. the last one)

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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
stillloveshim #1787354 06/22/09 07:14 PM
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Originally Posted By: stillloveshim
Not so much hit bottom....you just don't know. You are learning. Just do whatever you have to do to feel good about you. The rest will fall into place. I've seen more progress when I concentrate on me than any other time.
Do it, trust me.

I will. I do. smile

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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
Gardener #1787849 06/23/09 12:24 PM
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How are you?
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
stillloveshim #1787992 06/23/09 04:31 PM
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How are things today Gardener?

Me: 39 H: 39
S: 15
M: 18 years
Bomb: 6/3/09
H moved out: 10/15/09
H moved back:5/30/10
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
Faith2010 #1788337 06/24/09 01:07 AM
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Stilly & Ash,

Thanks for checkin'.
For now, I'm just kinda off the grid and regrouping a bit, but okay. Really.

Wait a minute. W just walked in front door and called out "Hello!" (how weird is this?).

Well, she came to give DIL something upstairs. Talked with DIL, S, and a bit with me.
If every interaction is a chance to show W the improved me, I'm afraid I blew it. Wasn't expecting her at all and I was not really in a mood for it. I was pleasant, though. Just detached. Apparently, she has removed her wedding band. Not that I care; I removed mine several weeks back. Just an observation.

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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
Gardener #1788338 06/24/09 01:09 AM
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Why do you think you blew it? Doesn't sound like it.

Me 43, S11, D7
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Re: Jumping in (1st post)
givingitmyall #1788339 06/24/09 01:12 AM
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Why were you the first to take off your wedding band?

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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
MrBond #1788344 06/24/09 01:32 AM
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Hang in there Gardener. I second Giving's question, why do you think you blew it?

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M: 18 years
Bomb: 6/3/09
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Re: Jumping in (1st post)
givingitmyall #1788346 06/24/09 01:35 AM
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Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Why do you think you blew it? Doesn't sound like it.


Not sure. Probably because I felt more withdrawn than detached during the ten minutes or so that she was here. Withdrawn had become my style the last year of M, so I think I showed her "More of the same" than "Brand new me".

But, hey, she did show up unannounced. At least to me. Turns out my DIL was expecting her.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac
Re: Jumping in (1st post)
Gardener #1788348 06/24/09 01:41 AM
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You said you were polite to her though. Polite + withdrawn = detached. Not splitting hairs, but my definition of withdrawn is aloof or giving her the cold shoulder. If you spoke politely with her in response to her questions, I don't think that is withdrawn.

Remember, we do not want to pursue. It's ok to pull back so long as it is not in a rude or cold way.

I still don't see where you blew anything. Even if you did, which I don't think, it's ok. You're human.

Me 43, S11, D7
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