I dont think that you should ask questions about the A or OM, I think that you are just supposed to tell her that you know whats going on and dont approve.
If it is an A, it will end. Have you read the books? Do it, and adhere to the advice, it may seem counter productive, but I will tell you right now, it works.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
She knows that I know what’s going on but she just wouldn’t admit to it. So you’re saying that you just let it happen and take its course while you hope that one day it will end? What if it doesn’t happen? What do you do then with the feelings that you accumulated while waiting. That will just eat me up. If ever she realizes what she has done I think it will be too late already. I only have less than 60 days till the divorce is finalize. Her career has become her life and right now that’s her priority, there is no way that she’ll give up her job. She loves it so much that she is willing to give up our marriage for it. So snapping her out of this is next to impossible. What book are you talking about?
The only way for this marriage to be saved is if both of us are willing to work it out. Problem is she has given up already and she has already found someone to replace me that can meet her needs. I have tried my best to show her that I’m willing to work on our issues. Quitting has never been an option in my life but I think in this situation I’m afraid that it would be my best option.
I guess We'll see Friday night. Part of me wanting to talk to her about it. I'll try to control myself. Any suggestions of what I should consider doing differently so that this doesn't blow up?
Listen to Fighting Fit, Al. She's spot-on. I'm not a big fan of the "Little Bo-Peep" approach -- you know, "leave them alone, and they'll come home, wagging their tails behind them."
Hello Hopeful I'm talking about Divorce Remedy....have you not read it? If not, go get out and get it right now. It only takes ONE person to change a marriage and turn it around. If you want to confront the other man, you're call. I still wouldn't bring her family into it. Again if it were me, I would have a fit to put it mildly because she does know what she's doing is wrong and that's why her family has no idea about it. She may not quit her job right now, but if you fight for this the right way, she may. And I agree, stay in her mind someway somehow, don't let her just do the "out of sight out of mind" crap. But read the book, especially the part the Last Resort Technique
