dee dee deetlee dee dee dee, dee dee dee deetlee dee....
So, H and I pursue some afternoon delight during the baby's nap yesterday. Hot and sunny, all the windows were open. Just as things are getting hot, here comes Mister Softee down the street. H starts joking about using the rhythm of the music. Then he shudders as he realizes that saying the words "Mister Softee" probably aren't good karma at the moment... We're trying to kiss and keep things going, trying not to let the laughter bring us completely out of the moment.
Mister Softee trails away into the distance, the laughter subsides, and it's back to biz-nezz. Good stuff. Just as I'm about to O......
....dee dee deetlee dee dee dee, dee dee dee deetlee dee...
Uncontrollable fits of laughter... This time much harder. Again, we're working to maintain our arousal and keep the passion salvageable through the comedy.
Softee fades into the distance again, and we take some time to recover and change positions. We climb that hill again and climax in unison at the peak.
And there you have it. The Mister Softee Method, Ladies and Gentlemen. Proven (well, an N of 1, at least) for longer, stronger, fun-filled lovemaking.
(And then H stared into my eyes and told me that I am "so beautiful" even though it looked like I had three eyes that close up. He also mentioned that if I want another baby, he is "right there" with me.)
Lucky...I loooooove your update! Not only hilarious, but the extreme intimacy involved is just so yummy....I'm so glad you picked the name "Lucky" when you came here...it sure has turned out to be fitting!
I am confused when the board goes "dead" like it is right now. Sometimes there is hustle bustle of activity and then sometimes, you can hear crickets chirping. Aren't all of our SSM friends hanging onto every word and update we post!?! And if not, why the H not???
He also mentioned that if I want another baby, he is "right there" with me.
Not to be a naysayer here LG, but....
Pregnancies and new babies tend to be intimacy killers, not just hormonally (for the woman), but also in the continuous 24/7 workload that goes with them, and the resulting increase in stress on the couple and the marriage. Even if the two of you eek out some hard-won "couple time," often one or the other of you will have a hard time getting into the mood.
I would recommend MAKING SURE that your SSM recovery is fully in hand and has sustained itself for a number of *months* (if not more) before launching into a new phase of family life and more babies / children. Otherwise it is very likely that the pregnancy and new baby will throw everyone back into old modes of operation and you will find yourself having to start all over again in recovering an SSM once the dust has cleared somewhat.
Granted, my own case is a bit extreme in this regard: my wife generally required --> 5 YEARS <-- to recover from each new child and to discover that she was a wife and lover again and not just a 24/7 Mommy. So this raises a BIG red flag for me when this issue is raised: more so than most.
Just take care,
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
The ice cream truck forced us to practice backing off of orgasm which extends the LM session. Normally, things would be somewhat straightforward, and with no interruption, the session would come to its sweet conclusion much sooner. Frequently, we would tend to give an interruption like that way too much power, and one or both of us would have a difficult time maintaining or re-establishing arousal. Somehow, the tone was right. Our R is improving, our openness and intimacy are improving, and I am assuming that this is *part of* why the sex is improving.
His sweet words in the afterglow were perfectly intimate and loving, and they sure beat the typical silence or immediate transition to business-as-usual.
(Don't worry, Baggy... As we've discussed before, I am carefully weighing the consideration of having another child. I know that we aren't "all better" and we have much more work to do. Though, time is not necessarily on our side with regard to age. So, there is some natural pressure. It took me about 6 months after my son was born to emerge from my sexual hiatus, so I may not have a similar experience as your W to childbirth and motherhood.)
He also grabbed me while I was doing the dishes later that evening - out of nowhere - and kissed me passionately.
I'm practicing letting him sweep me off my feet without second-guessing if this is fleeting. I'm practicing trust and faith.
Lucky, I'm so happy for you. I hope that you can keep things moving forward. You are so very blessed to have your relationship working again and blessed to have a husband that loves you so much.
Lucky, I'm so happy for you. I hope that you can keep things moving forward. You are so very blessed to have your relationship working again and blessed to have a husband that loves you so much.
Hey, LG. Glad to hear things are moving along so well for you. When I saw the Mr. Softee heading, I thought maybe you were going to explain how to do it w/semi-E.
Couple things, H hasn't used pill in a couple months. Sometimes that works better than others, but one thing that's changed his 'performance' is that he doesn't seem to worry about losing his E during transitions because he's able to get it back if he relaxes & lets me do what worked in the first place. (We do talk about that kinda stuff more than before he admitted the ED was killing his libido. Guess he gets that its a team effort??) Anyway, M2M resuscitation isn't only for cardiac arrest. LOL A plus is we spend more time enjoying each other. Jayce
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.
OK, second thing: Do you know exactly what his T level is? I still have some concerns about that, but the more I research, the more negative side effects I learn about. As his efforts to eat a better diet, get more sleep, and have more sex, (maybe even exercise)his T levels will come up a little more.
The scariest thing is, once the T gets into his body, it is possible for small amounts to excrete through the skin as in sweat. It can then enter through the skin of whomever he has a lot lf skin contact with. Example: holding a small child. Effect of that on a child is dangerous. This is dose dependent, but still something to consider.
However, aren't we glad just to be having our guys at least interested again? And spending that intimate time with us, exploring paths to improvement together? Beats last year! J
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.
Good to hear from you. Yes, I figured out the M2M tip and agree it's the way to go. You are hilarious (not just for cardiac arrest...)
I don't know his T level and he doesn't remember it. I'm sure he could get it from his doctor, but I don't want to continue harping on the T topic. He is against T therapy for many reasons, though he said that he will be willing to consider it if absolutely nothing else works.
I agree that this new life is paradise. I keep wondering if lightening is going to strike me dead. I hope it's not lame, but I felt compelled to thank H for making all of my dreams come true. All of our blessings: our marriage, our home, our son. It's overwhelming.
I'm so happy for you too, Jayce, but I'll reply more on your thread.
