FINALLY !!! He moved out. The house feels so comfortable, calm and free of tension.
The kids say his new apt is cool & that they are excited to go stay with him.
I have watched myself grow stronger over the last few months. While I was living it, I thought it was torturous. Now I recognize it as growth & strengthening of me and time for the kids to adjust.
We never know why things happen the way they do. We just have to trust that it's for the best.
Happy Memorial Weekend.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Free at last and early right? I thought his deadline was May 29.
Best wishes. You deserve it!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Hi Everyone, things are good. I haven't spoken with him in 10 glorious days.
We go to mediation in the morning.
Thanks for popping in. You guys are awesome.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Mediation went much better than I expected. We completed in one visit what most co-parents take 3-4 appointments. We were even able to have a civil conversation afterwards.
This last weekend was the first the kids went to his apt. I felt guilty & sad that they had to pack up & leave their home. Knowing this wasn't their decision, but mine. It was an emotional weekend for me.
They came home Sunday night and said his apt was very cool, & that they had a great time. I was glad they got some good quality time with him.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
