Cat, I wasn't trying to upset anyone with this post. I have been on these boards for a few years now. And, I know all about coming out of a bad relationship.
I posted my question because I know there are people on the boards here who have divorced and moved on with their lives. And, I thought maybe some of those people might be in a long-distance relationship.
My husband and I are currently in a long-distance marriage...not much longer before we will be living together. I was looking to establish a connection with other couples in a similar situation.
And,I certainly was NOT looking to stir up trouble.
Hi Deb, I guess a lot of the newbies will not remember you and your story, sorry you haven't had any luck with replies. The only long distance rel. I know of where my parents in so much as first it was forces and then he was a fisherman away 6-8 wks at a time. The second was a friend who again was a Forces wife and then her H,s job kept himaway for months at a time, now he works away all week and is home maybe 1 day at week end. To be honest I know when they lived tog. 24/7 for a while,it nearly didn't make it. My mother was used to it as most of her circle had similar lives and it worked great for them. You set up is different I know and it must be really hard but if anyone can thrive it will be you. Not too long to go so thats great. I can't see that your question would/could upset people just not many like you about I guess. Take care.
My H is active duty military and has orders to a ship about 4 hours from where we live. He wants to separate instead of D (due to finances). I am living in "bizarro" world.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
I posted my thread this weekend, when I was feeling a little down. More than anything, I guess I was hoping to hear how others deal with the time apart. Right now, Bill and I are able to see each other about once a month. And, that is fine. Of course, we talk everyday, 3 or 4 times a day. But, there are times when I would really love to be with him and can't. My hardest times are the weekends, especially when the kids are with their dad and I am home alone. I try to take advantage of those times to do things with my friends. But, I still miss him.
Again, I was just hoping to hear from fellow db'ers who might be in a similar situation.
well...I deal with the time apart by staying busy...of course my R is not quite like your M to Bill...Michele and I are only about 75 miles apart...we can meet half way when needed just for dinner...we talk lots...email lots, facebook...etc...we have pretty much blended the kids when we have them...she has 3 daughters and I have 1 plus a married son...we have visitation on the same weekends so it works good....
I find myself getting lonely after i have seen her for multiple days in a row...
I try to stay real busy and have since my D in November...GAL works wonders..
Thanks, M, for your help. I do try to find things to keep me busy. But, I still have moments that I really miss him. I miss what we could be having if we were together.
I am so happy that things are going so well for you and Michele. Isn't wonderful when we are finally able to let go and move on?
Bill and I do a lot of the things that you mentioned. However, because of our schedules, we do not spend as much time on the computer together. Almost all of our communication is done over the phone.
Gosh, I wish we (Bill and I) were only 75 miles apart....we are 750 miles apart!!
I know..that's why I said my R does not compare to that......the distance has not become an issue yet....I see and sense Michele wanting to close that distance gap some...we will see..
