ok so my wife asked me about my living arrangements and if i talked to friends and family. I said I have with friends and would with my parents tomorrow (I already told her I would Thurs.) I told her they were aware things were tense and I always had a place to stay. I decided yesterday I would stop sleeping at my current residence at night and informed her that tonight was my last night sleeping here. She seemed a little shocked and concerned. she asked if i would keep the key.. i said as long as I was on the lease so I could get my stuff gradually and maybe use the workout equipment when W and SIL were at work until I found an alternate source. Later on I started packing some clothing and she came in and said so you are now exercising at X (male friends) place? I was like yah.. She saw I was packing and asked "what about us what do we do?" I said "that is up to you".. she said something else R related and I said "as of now I have to assume our R is over" (I mean she did start this.. and it seemed like she meant it was over..).. I then said "you obviously need space".. she seemed panicked during this exchange. Btw I was succinct and to the point. She left the room with her eyes as huge as saucers. So I have to say wtf!! I am not sure if I can say she is as resolute about ending this as I thought. I am still not going to get excited but something happened tonight and it looks like I played my cards right. Right now she is talking to her brother on Skype with her twin sister on Skype looking all calm and serene. Any insite here?
---- me-36 WAW-32 live in SIL-32 SIL H suicide - 11/09 ILYBIANILWYAM - 5/07/09 bomb - 5/07/09
Nope not a thing. WAS are irrational, mood swinging , lala land living creatures from another planet. Be prepared for a roller coaster of a ride emotionally. Do not try to rationalize the thoughts of the irrational .
In fact the more you keep out of their head the better off you will be. Pick you fights, listen, say fewer words and get busy thinking about you and your future and what you want!
ok I wasn't really all that excited about this really as it just shows her to be more confused than I thought. I figure confused is better than hell bent on getting divorce papers ASAP. Anyway, today is looking good. This is the day I am supposed to move out of here and my work place up and calls me to come in and fill out paper work for a potential promotion.
and thanks for that by the way I have to be reminded that the WAS is not a rational being and be the strong one. I have had a slip here and there but mostly I have been a pretty cool cucumber. This is not something I would have been capable in the past breakups I have had.
