Thank you Creed your comments make a whole lot of sense and so true he is the one that has shut out the past to concentrate on his future regardless of us. And yes he is blinded by the attention he is getting from her at the moment. Inevitably this will wear off in time and then they are left with LIFE with its ups and downs. My only wish is that he will one day realise what he has done and how his behaviour has affected not just me but his children also and hope that he is still able to sleep at night.
Crush go read my sitch and you will notice we have ALOT in common as far as what your h, xh's has done. Yes mine wanted a divorce 60 days or so after we sep. He said his lawyer told him he needed to wait that long. He said when he left he would give me 30 days, that I at least deserved that. Whatever. Anyway go read but DONT do what I have done or said. It has taken me awhile just to even listen to people here. I thought my sitch was different, my xh was different. I dont think so. Anyway please hang in there for your children if nothing else. They need you. Are old are they? Is your h with younger woman? Mine went for a 26 year old.
Thanks and I will read your sitch. My h went for a woman 4 years older who has 3 kids like him. Similar ages too, ours are 7 10 and 12. I feel he has traded in one family to go another and when the honeymoon period ends life continues with its problems etc. It is the way he has changed that I find hard to deal with, so cold hearted and cocky which is someone he was not before all of this, but guess she is pulling his strings. She has been here before she is divorced and doesn't have a great track record from what i have been told so will have to wait and see.
