SO2 - H has apologized many times before now and I just wanted to see the change before believing the apology. I think he really meant it many times but he just didn't do anything about it like he is this time.
Volleydog - I would love to talk to your W - I have to say that it is very complicated to be the spouse - you have to find a balance between maintaining your self respect and learning to forgive as well as understanding the problem. It is much easier to pick one of them and stick with that remedy for onesself.
SilverFox, - It is awesome to listen to his maturity kick in and have a grown up conversation.
The weekend is here! Any good plans...maybe some with your H?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
The weekend is here! Any good plans...maybe some with your H?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Thank you for the kind words. What I do is very hard but M isn't always easy - heck life isn't always easy - we just have to do the best we can. I will never know what it is like for my H to do his part - he hurt a lot of people for a long time and let himself down - and let go of many good things in his life - all ugly memories he has to find a way to live with. My memories are shortterm compared to his. And then too, he has to face me and my kids and be reminded of what he was like. But we all need to move forward -or nothing changes.
Weekend plans - yes - he came over last night after a meeting. Will be back later today - after another meeting and then some running around, dinner, maybe a movie. So far, so good.
He brought up house hunting this a.m. I told him we needed to wait until next year. He understood that I am not ready to make plans yet. He told me last night that he will be chairing meetings every wed a.m. for the month of June. Sponsor told him he had to start doing more - so he agreed.
What are you doing provided you have good weather.
Yeah, I would hold off on house hunting for a bit. Good move. Kudos to him on the AA stuff. He is doing the work needed to stay sober.
Plans? Hmmm....not much. Retail therapy always helps but I am broke. Two of my kids are out of town and the one D that is here is going to be in and out. She is busy with her friends before graduation.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I forgot to mention that last night when H arrived he was a bit disturbed which made me cautious - but I realized that he worked all day - when to a meeting and then came over and so was exhausted. He just talked about it, I listened and then he was fine again. That's a first!
I do like hearing what he learns from the meetings and watching him learn and grow.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
