Hi all, we've been married for 14 years, no kids. I am 34 he is 35. I found out in April that he has been having an affair since January. He swears that they have only kissed but no sex. I told him to leave the house. A few of weeks ago we met and he was still seeing her. He told me he had made his choice and we were on the path to divorce. We met two weeks ago to discuss dividing up assets and he told me she broke up with him. He was hurt by the rejection. We have seen each other very little and are not talking on the phone etc. However, he just signed up on facebook and was searching for her profile? How do I know when it has been enough time? I feel physically ill by the hopelessness/hopefulness. Should I be waiting for him to come to me when he is ready? I have not been pushy or pursuing but I'm not sure how long I can handle this. He says he has been unhappy for 5 years however he also lost his job 5 years ago-it really seems as though he is going thru a mid-life crisis (early). Any advice would be helpful....I'm lost!
