Wow, he actually did it. He didnt want to come to the pub afterwards (naturally)...
Originally Posted By: AliSuddenly
He rang me 5-5.15ish then G rang him 8.30, when he told G he had ended it with her tonight! So he cant have spent a long time doing it (2 hours max?). He said he didnt want to come out as he felt really bad after dumping her. G and him are going out for a beer tommorow for a post match analysis.
Of course I am pleased, relieved mostly.. but if I dont sound excited.. to be honest, I kind of felt sorry for her and a bit annoyed at him for staying with her for so long that she got attached to him and he has hurt her. As a member of the sisterhood, thats not nice!...Still, that whole May thing is looking pretty likely hey!
I thought he might. I realised from his email, he is not in her office from today, he had a site visit tommorow and then was back in his own office from Monday and said how glad he was to get back to 'stability'. So I had a feeling, but I thought he might do it over the weekend. Wow, he couldnt stand her that much that he did it on a Thursday. Guess he really meant it when he said he would end it when the contract was up !
So.. hope she doesnt use her feminine wiles (or DBing!!) and try and win him back!? I am a little nervous he did it the day Mercury Retrograded, in case it wont stick...but thats just the nerdy astrologer in me.
I feel really lucky though. I dont think he finished with her JUST because he still loves me, I think its also because they are not soulmates and it wasnt meant to be. And of course, apart from me, or me and him... this is the first step for him being himself.. finding himself again and making better choices/decisions.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
And of course, apart from me, or me and him... this is the first step for him being himself.. finding himself again and making better choices/decisions.
That is the most important thing isn't it? He has to find himself and his center first. Nothing can really be right or fall into place properly unless he does that.
You have so much patience and I admire you greatly for that.
What are your plans for the weekend?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I know you would love for him to come to you now, but he has to get his bearings. I know you realize that but it doesn't make that wanting go away. I have been "waiting" for nearly 5 months for the guy I am interested in to heal. It isn't easy especially since the path to you seems so clear now.
He still has to get the fog cleared out and then he will see more clearly what he needs to do to get back to you. give him time.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thankyou everyone, thanks.. wow.. so near and yet so far! Hey Lisa, thankyou and nice to see you.
Its pretty remarkable that ex rang BMF after doing it and I got to find out 10 minutes later! (as Cher was mouthing to me, but I couldnt catch all she said). So.. the grapevine continues. J rang to tell me, ex rang BMF last night to tell him (she said it was early evening, so it must have been a short convo with Helen, which also worries me.. she will be back for more I bet)..and he was crying and apparently in a bad state, very wobbly BMF said. So bad that if he is still in bad shape tommorow, he is driving down to spend time with him (thats a big ask, BMF works and is busy and its a 4 hour drive).
I'm worried to hear he is so on the edge. For him and also, what that means about his feelings for her. J said, its just him, he is a lovely guy and cant bear upsetting people.
I sent him a short, lighthearted text about our house and the letting agents early, but no reply of course.
I;ve had some odd reactions from people today. J and BFF were very pleased and excited and also glad for him that he has done this. But there has been some muted responses. I'm a bit wierded out by that, I thought it was good news? I haven't got excited though, I know this isnt it yet and he needs time and space still, I dont know maybe people are fed up with him. I see it that he had a breakdown and is still not out the other side of that.
This development is undoubtedly good news!!! Really really good news!!! ((((Ali))))
But at the same time must feel weird for you...in such a way as weird cannot be defined!!!
It must feel like the strangest feeling ever...things being so close, yet so far away -Ali - nothing to offer but best wishes and support for you... you will deal with this new turn of events with your self-same good humour and level headiness -keep going Ali! Everyone here is rooting for you!!!
And Ali -don't give your ex "too" much slack! He's got more of the bridge to mend than you have!!! IMO give him space to get his bricks sorted out and the mortar mixed but don't give him "too" much help with the re-building! Although, of course you might do well to put your hard hat on and then when the time is right, you can help. Right at the moment though it sounds as if "the job" needs a bit more sizing up and lip sucking! All big building jobs are the same!
Weird analogy -sorry Ali! I hope that makes some sense when read!
Hi Simon.. thanks! It is incredible news, now its sunk in! J joked today that she deserved a bottle of fizz for her help and I said I had already decided to buy her a bottle of champagne if we get back together!!!..
FB is a funny thing. An old work mate requested me (his brother is BMF of my EA man, who isnt on FB, but I dont think I should accept). Wierdly, he is good friends with an old friend of my current ex. I looked at that guys friends list and found.. a girl who I was sensitive about.. as she was in love with my ex for 10 years? (he turned her down though). So wierd to see her face pop up and I also now have her surname and know she still lives up North. Guess my mind was turning to.. so what happens next, now that he is single again and got his EA/PA out of his life? He is cast adrift.. theres no gaurantee he will come back to me, he could get snapped up by someone else! Guess its good news he says I am his soulmate though.
So he did it.. "Brian the Snail" as my friends refer to him to me, has finally got off the starting blocks and entered the race. God.. there are a million questions I would love to ask him and of course, I cant.
