My WAW continues to move forward with her plans to legally separate from me & begin the process of getting a D.
As I mentioned in previous posts, she makes over 100K/year, while I'm living off my 26K/year graduate school stipend. I literally will have to take out a loan just to show up to the courthouse.
My therapist, family, & friends state that she has no legal grounds to divorce me. I have no history of physical abuse, adultery, alcohol/drug abuse, gambling, or financial misconduct. We live in Maryland, and "irreconcible differences" is not a legal reason for divorce, however, the term "emotional abandonment" is a legal ground for divorce. Her main reasons for wanting a D are that I placed my career before the marriage, & that she "loves me, but is not in love with me" (sound familar?).
Six months into our marriage she demanded that we buy a house, and so we did with my VA home loan. Four months ago, she got a corporate apartment near her office, because of her "long commute". Although I helped her move in, within two months she told me that I was not welcome or wanted at her place. I have no proof, but I'm sure she is in an EA or PA. I don't drink, & she was a light-drinker, but now she frequents bars & nightclubs 2-3 times a week, & she drinks to get drunk.
I have been told that since she left me, and if she continues to remain estranged for 12 continuous months, that she will have legally deserted me. I can't stand the thought of getting a divorce, nor can I afford a lawyer. But my angry friends & family are constantly telling me to get a lawyer, & fight this because she is at fault. There is no way that I want a nasty, bloody D trial. I don't want some lawyer destroying what little friendship I have left with my W, especially when I trying to do a 180 & hoping that DB will at least get her to come to marriage counseling with me.
Does anyone now what I should do? I can't even afford to retain an attorney, much less pay the $200/hour legal fees.
