Mother's Day?

[clueless]

I thought I would post this seperately as it probably affects about half of us. Mother's Day is coming up. I imagine many of us are unsure how to mark the occasion with our wives. Any advice from vets?

[volleydog]

I'll probably do the same thing as last year. I got gifts and cards from the kids and a card (non-romantic)from me.

[fightingirish]

Getting a card from the kids is appropriate. Not really necessary to get a card from yourselves. Depends on your individual situation.

[hopefulinEG]

I was thinking of giving a card from me that just said I thought she was a great mother and I appreciated what she does for our kids.

Is that pushy/pursuing?

Showing appreciation is one of my 180's but I don't want to overdo it.

[SmileysPerson]

Only you can know, hopeful. I wrestled with this at the local Hallmark store the other day. Apparently Hallmark hasn't gotten hip to the "For My Ex" category of cards -- so would-be entrepreneurs and creative types take note!

I opted for the kids recognizing the day and me organizing "their" treat to an M-day buffet. As for me, I intend to be Mr. Cellophane.

[SoTired]

I was thinking of giving a card from me that just said I thought she was a great mother and I appreciated what she does for our kids.

Is that pushy/pursuing?

Showing appreciation is one of my 180's but I don't want to overdo it.

I was just having the same thoughts myself. I still dont' really know what I should do about mothers day yet.

[PortlandDad]

In the immortal words of Dr. Kelso...

"She's not my mother, damnit!"

Seriously, my mom will get a card from me; my W will get a card from our kids. Anything I send her at this point would probably be used as TP without being read.

[fightingirish]

Gentlemen,

It depends on what you have done in the past.

If you have always given her a card from yourself, then go ahead and do it. If not, definately don't do that, its pursuing.

My h has always given me a card, and if he didn't I would be a little upset about it. Portland Dad does have a point, but I think it is a nice gesture to acknowledge you wife and her being the mother of your children.

[clueless]

Mine is even trickier. Mother's Day is also my w's b-day. I think I will just give her a couple of simple cards.

[Can it work]

I can relate to this because in the UK, mother's day has already been. I actually asked my DB Coach about it and she gave me a really good idea. My Wee Man is only 19 months old so I went and bought a kit to do his handprint and footprint in plaster. The kit came with a triple frame so you could have the prints/impressions at the side and a nice photo in the middle. I also got him to scribble on the card after I'd written out.

By doing something like this it really shows thoughtfulness and makes it look like it's from your child mainly since they had an input in it. Definitely avoid flowers or things like that because it lacks imagination and makes it seem more like it's from you.

As for the fact it's her birthday, get her a present from the kids and a lovely Happy Birthday Mummy card from the kids but just get her a normal card from yourself but no present. This is what my WAW gave me for my birthday at the beginning of April and what I intend to do for her in June. It lets them know that you've not forgotten but also makes it seem less like pursuing.

Hope this helps.

Kev