Ammo, you're getting good advice. Stay quiet until you speak to the lawyer. Stay focused on what is best for your daughter and let your wife act like an adult. She has to make some tough choices. It will get worse. But if you stay focused on the daughter's best interest and in not harming your wife through your actions, you'll maintain your daughter's best interest, maintain your integrity and sanity, and you'll put the work where it belongs - on your wife. She has to do this. You cannot make her choices nor can you make her change her mind. Only she can.
Sad. It really is. But it gets better. It spins and twists, but it gets better and better.
AJ
P.S. it gets dark and low, but the best is yet to come. Look for the best so you don't miss it when it comes.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
W changed her mind about wanted to work out stuff with the Divorce. We agreed on property and mostly the custody arangement of my D. She already got her own apartment. and is buying funiture for it now. She did start having small talk with me over the last two days, mostly about her apartment and college stuff. She will be back on the 1st... She did ask me to go pick up a couch for her yesterday i told her i was busy and that i would try and do it today but that i was busy today too and didnt know if ill be able to get to it. Yesterday i was really down because she moved so much more ahead with leaving... and there is no sign of her coming back.... when do you know it times to give up? When its at that point of no return on the WAW end?
So W texted me today and asked if she was still covered under my medical from the military... YA!? We havent actually been divorced yet. anyways i told her ya and asked why (probably shouldnt have) She said cuz she might need to go to the hospital. I asked her what was wrong. She says it might be the flu and that she felt really bad and she was waiting on a telephone consult from a nurse. (I'm usaully babying her when shes sick). A couple hours later i asked her what the nurse had said (I know i broke the rules and initiated contact )and instead of texting like she normally does she called me to talk... . So she tells me what the nurse said and what she was doing. She asked if Me and D went up to the mountains for the military appreciation weekend. I told her that we didnt that we got tied up doing other things. Then she asked about what me and D have been doing (she hasnt really asked that at all). So i tell her me and D are having a blast and what all we have been doing. Told her about D being excited about us going camping next weekend, and how i was taking her bowling just the 2 of us and going out to dinner just the 2 of us. Plus stuff we havent been doing like taking walks so she can ride her bike etc. She says "Well thats a change", "I'm pround of you", and "thats so cute". It felt really good... anyways so we just made some more small talk about the dogs, D taking martial arts etc. then i told her i had to go cause i had company at the house. It was a very good conversation i thought. No changes to the fact that she is moving out when she gets back and i didnt ask her anything about it, and there was no R talk at all. Maybe there still is hope... I dont know.
Ammo, Her moving out isn't the last word, believe me. There is always hope, especially when you have a shared history and D together. The road is long and hard, but there is always hope. Just focus on the things that are important and that you CAN control. Be the better man for yourself and your D.
I know it hurts like crazy every little thing the WAS does when they build their new life without you. Each thing seems like it is a irrevocable step away: signing the lease for the apartment, buying the furniture, picking out the curtains, etc. I can tell you that it isn't the end, though. My W did all those things too. We have been separated for 6 months and she was as adamant that we were through as any W I've read about here. Guess what? She is coming back next month. She is selling all that stuff she bought, she's canceling her lease, and she is coming back to work on our M. She has discovered that the grass isn't greener "over there". Believe me, if my W can have that epiphany, then ANY W can, even yours.
Be strong and hang in there.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
Not much happened W went to hospital and found out she had a tonsil infection. D actually wanted to talk to W so we called her so they could talk. Had a quick talk with her after D was done. She didnt sound like she was in the mood to talk so before she could tell me so i told her me and D had something to do and i let her go. Nothing from her since.
I'm glad this is a short work week 4 DAY WEEKEND coming up YAY!!!
She called today asked me to move the couch she bought to her friends house was kinda caught off guard so i just did it. thats all i got from her today...
Downloading some bob marley right now to just chill by the lake and relax bob marley is the poo lol "everythings gonna be alright".
Really not much else to jornal today pretty uneventful but me and D are having a blast regardless.
)and instead of texting like she normally does she called me to talk... 
. So she tells me what the nurse said and what she was doing. She asked if Me and D went up to the mountains for the military appreciation weekend. I told her that we didnt that we got tied up doing other things. Then she asked about what me and D have been doing (she hasnt really asked that at all). So i tell her me and D are having a blast and what all we have been doing. Told her about D being excited about us going camping next weekend, and how i was taking her bowling just the 2 of us and going out to dinner just the 2 of us. Plus stuff we havent been doing like taking walks so she can ride her bike etc. She says "Well thats a change", "I'm pround of you", and "thats so cute". It felt really good... anyways so we just made some more small talk about the dogs, D taking martial arts etc. then i told her i had to go cause i had company at the house. It was a very good conversation i thought. No changes to the fact that she is moving out when she gets back and i didnt ask her anything about it, and there was no R talk at all. Maybe there still is hope... I dont know.