Well I guess moving to the divorced forum was just wishful thinking. We are separated but sharing a house still.
We had court on the 15th, & our hearing was postponed. The brand new judge had a conflict of interest. We've had proposals and counters going back & forth between attorneys for weeks. It seems that H wants to drag this out as long as possible. Gee what a surprise. <sarcasm>
He's been sleeping on an air mattress in the family room for months now but coming in/out of the bedroom/bathroom whenever he chose to.
After another major blow out fight, about money of course, I put a lock on the bedroom door, & moved his necessities out. Having a bit of privacy has made it bearable. He & I don't speak (well he did ask me where the plunger was the other day) except to exchange information about the kids. It's so surreal at times. Our anniversary is on Tuesday. I thought we'd be living separately & close to divorced by now.
Tonight someone reminded me how much my posting & sharing my experiences helped them through their tough times. It has helped me a lot too.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
oh, & my thread title references the fact that I'm the one here wanting out of my marriage.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I know he is an idiot. And lots of other things. I think focusing on your self and the kids will help the time pass. Be the best cookie you can be. Keep your dignity. Keep your respect for yourself. You have helped a lot of people, and I hope we have all helped you a little, too.
You can still do this gracefully. You'll feel a lot better about it. Our situations are different, in that my W is not acting at all like your H, but other than that our paths our similar. So, keep looking at the positives in you. You will be fine!
((Jeff)) No I did not help him find the plunger. He's got to learn to survive without me being the "keeper of stuff". lol
You're exactly right about focusing on me & the kids helps the time pass & be savored as well.
I took D14 to Phantom of the Opera last night. It was AMAZING ! The set, the music, the costumes, the love.........ah !!! It was something I'd wanted to do for years and years. Living life is such much better than just dreaming about living life.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
It's not so long compared to what you're going through sweetie. I'm so sorry that things are turning out this way for you. I think of you so very often. One day I am coming to your area & walking those white sandy beaches and giving you a big hug in person.
xoxoxo
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hiya Purple !!! How have you been ? um, what's quaffing ? I'm guessing it's guzzling. lol
Nice to see you sweets.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
