hi guys sorry its been a few days but things have changed here dramaticly, i also only realised my thread had locked yesterday, lol. for you people that know my story ts been one hell of a ride, so the situation now is my wife is back home and where a family again, we are taking things slowly and everything is good, we have done nothing but talk for 5 days solid, we have everything out in the open, ive acknowledged all my doings and she has too, my wife as shown deep regret for the things she said and done, we are putting it all behind us, and making a new future together with the changes we have both agreed, we both lost sight of the person we was and took each other for granted, my wife has also stressed that she deeply loves me and she had to say she didnt when we split to make me see what i could lose, she has said it almost sent her insane leaving me but she felt it was the only thing left to do, to be honest guys i now feel like she did the right thing beacuse this has saved our marriage from failing in the future, at the time i thought my whole life was gone and i couldnt see a future for me, people would say she is standing her ground on something and i couldnt work it out, i now know what it was. she wanted me to realise what we had and what we could lose if things dont change, so guys its baby steps from here and were building a foundation again, i must admit i get a little aprehensive now and then, but thats normal. so thanks guys for all your advice and support, speak soon.
It would be a good idea to pay attention to the timing of things Beno. Coming back too soon can be a problem if you cannot work out the things that need to be worked out and if you cannot have the chance to build that new relationship.
Take your time. Both of you. Do it right.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
hi guys it took 6 weeks to get back, not a long time i know, it was my wife that asked for it, and it was her that left, and most of the time i thought it was over, my wife even said the same,
thank you portland ive not been over to piecing yet but i intend on doing, thing have been so hectic, and yes things are really good everything is out in the open and were working on things, we are both 100% committed and were pulling in the same direction, were like 2 love sick kids lol. speak soon guys
thank you so much guys ive kept the gym thing going beacuse i love it, my wife has just loined up with me so this is an interest we will do together so thats a positive, im still working on me and my wife on her, but were both working together also, things are fantasitic between us, sure there will be disagrements along the way, thats natural but i know it will be different this time, it will be compromise all the way, no more me me me it will be us, we have booked a holiday overseas, were due to leave in 5 weeks just the 2 of us, were so looking forward to it, we will be taking the kids in the summer, we involve each other now in most things and treat each other as individuals as well as couple, we listen to each other and share laughs, were rebuilding and we are doing it together as equals
