Without getting into to much history she left me April 1st. In this short 15 days I have found mistakes we both made. I have mostly forgiven her and have made changes in my own life to forgive myself. She left me for another man which she is now living with. I have cut communication with her letting her know I only need to hear from her if she is calling to resolve things. She had become very hurtful and was trying to get me any ways she could. Last thing she told me was she would be filling for divorce on the 13th. For me this has been something crazy. We have been together 15 years married 10 and renewed our vows just last year. Now not even a year later she is living with another man and seeking divorce not even a month after. Since she left I have made major changes to my life including rediscovering religion. I was so far off the religious mark the entire time we have been together. I am changing that now. Any advise is accepted but please realize at this point, we have no children, no pets, only a newly purchased house between us. There is nothing that would make us have to talk. I have been praying for this to be turned around but that's all I can do in terms of influencing her to change. In the mean while I am changing myself for the better and hoping she will return and follow. I do love her and really do want her back but the woman she is right now is not my wife. I pray for her multiple times a day as well as for myself the wisdom to fix what was wrong with myself and to provide her a way to see I am still the man she wants.
Me - 32 Wife - 30 No kids She left 4/1/09 - Left for another man Filed 4/13/09 - Served 4/18/09
if the only thing you are able to do now is pray then you are in good hands. I too rediscovered my faith during the ordeal, and I'm glad you've have as it will carry you through it all.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I currently am still accepted at her parents so I have been spending time over. They have had trouble mowing thier yard and such the past few years so if I can help I am. Doing so I now wish I had been helping them more over the good years. They really need the help. I'm looking at parts of thier house making plans on fixing those also. Not sure if that counts as contact with her but if it helps her parents then its worth it.
