DA CLUB IV

[JayMan]

Woot! Starting this going first:
I think I'm on day 15 or so?

[K4D]

And tomorrow will be day 16 or so?

Kevin

[hopefulinEG]

I am on day 5 although I have seen W every single day. None of which I initiated. She moved out Sunday and I did txt her on Monday a couple times. She got really pissy about the fact that I wanted her to move out because I didn't want to see her everyday anymore so I could detach and why was I txting so much. It was really about not wanting to talk about the kids response to the move.

She picks up the kids from school and keeps them until I get home. She is supposed to take them to her house and then they come out to the car when I get there so I don't have to see her but she keeps staying at my house instead of her's. We agreed she would take the kids there to have dinner (with my food) and let them do homework but then go to her house. Also yesterday AM she knocked on the door and then just came in without anyone answering it or saying come in. She didn't call first or anything. She didn't say hello to me, just went to look for something then said goodbye to the kids and left. She txts me everyday about stuff that could easily wait until later. I am ignoring those and tell her the answer later since I know I will see her wether I like it or not.

I won't see her today and I hope to not see her tomorrow when she drops off. She should just drop off but I she will probably come in anyway. We go to councelor on Thursday and I am going to bring that up that she is not respecting my boundries and letting me have my space just as she says she wants hers.

I haven't felt much more detached this week but I know it will get better. I just need to give it time.

[DuncanM]

I am on day 19. Was served with divorce papers yesterday. I am to the point where I am working myself back to being closer to God. The closer I am to God the more likely I will be close to her again as she returns to God. I just have to now pray that God does his work on her hardened heart.

[JayMan]

Well, had a long conversation about kids that ended in W expressing her self-absorption, so I'll scratch "caring about the kids" off the list.

Ah well, you try!

So, now, starting day 6!

[hopefulinEG]

I am starting over on day 1. Yesterday I had kids call to see if W wanted to go out to dinner with me and Kids. I used D6 getting a cast as an excuse why she should come. She didn't get message until after so didn't answer yes or no. I also called twice to ask questions. They were kid related but I could have waited until I had to see her or sent an e-mail.

I really like seeing her. She showed up at starbucks where I was this morning and sat down with some mutual friends and I and I really enjoyed her company. Makes me miss her more.