I am supposed to be getting together with my W this afternoon to do "Bills". I need some advice what to do and what not to do. I am all ears!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tjs-My H has left me before and says he wants a divorce but never ends up filling for it. He has told me again he wants a divorce cause he thinks that this OW is just what he needs. I dont think we will ever know why our spouses do what they do, but I know that more than anything I wont give up on my marriage. I hope that you too will be able to find the courage to do the same. I here to help supprt you with your journey so please take me up on the offer. I know that knowing your not alone and having a good support sytem will help. I will continue to pray for you and your spouse.
Well, My W and I got together last night to go overe finances. I kept my emotions in check for the first time and did not lose control. She just acts like she in numb! It feels like my marriage has died. Is there any hope for us??? I think we both neglected each other and the marriage. She moved out 1 week ago. I just wonder whether she will let out her feelings and change her position. She acts like with her being away from me that she will come to some new happieness. ????
Tjs-I could suggest a couple of books to read but dont know if your a religious person. I bought the book "Hope For The Seperated" By Gary Chapman. It helped me to answer some questions and to give me some hope. I am also Ordering a book called "Broken Heart on Hold" by Linda Rooks. This book tells about her struggles and how she found hope when there wasnt any. I am willing to work towards trying all that I can to save my marriage and I believe you are too. I am going to list a few websites you can look at if your interested. http://www.brokenheartonhold.com/index.shtml, http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com/couples.php, http://covenantkeepersinc.org/, http://www.smartmarriages.com/index.html Maybe one of these might help you. These are just a few of the many I look at to help give me insight and hope. Take care of yourself and try to piece your heart back together. As hard as it is some times, we just need space to work thru our hard times and work our way back to each other. This road is not easy. Congradualtions on keeping yourself together yesterday. That is something very hard to do. It takes time to heal but I am here for you, anytime you need it. I hope some of this will help you.
We may not know how are spouse will respond, but we just take one day at a time. I know this is very hard to do, but it is all we have right now. I struggle with my H and how one day I can get a great response and the next wont be so warm. Some times I even ask if I should give up and just let him go but something inside me tells me that I cant. No matter what. Please give it some time. Only time will tell us how things will go, but in the long run you can be a better person it. Just remeber that no matter how they treat us, treat them as you would want them to treat you. I am working on a step today from The Love Dare book and know that no matter what, I will feel better for doing it even if hes not.
My wife and I have been on better speaking terms and Friendship. She still says she wants to divorce though. She is going to court tommorow to file. I still think she is in a state of mind where she does not know exactly what she is doing. She believes this will bring her happiness. She told me yesterday she is lonely. I asked herif she thought at some point we could maybe get back together, she says she does not go back. She is going thru something and I am being her friend. Does anyone think there is still any hope???
tjs...my name is Nicole...sorry to meet up on these terms. what has happened since this post? are you ok? did she file? you know, my husband left me about a month ago...not much explanation other than "I am not happy". Give us an update...hope this finds you better. There is always hope
She filed 5-14 It is weird because she says she still loves me but that she feels like she hinders me She has told me to date other people. Sometimes I get the feeling that she is not so sure what she is doing. We have had kind of a rocky relationship, but we have always weathered it. I have until july 7th to make something happen. I saw her yesterday and I felt there was still chemistry there. I don't understand her. What can I do???
