Snodderly You are right his business is having issues. Work not being done on time, work not being completed satisfactorily. It won't take much before his customers start going elsewhere.
Jerri Me 50 WAH 47 M 23 years D 22 S 21 S 30 (previous marriage) B 02/09 marriage is over S 02/09 NC
I just think my situation is hopeless. My H is gone - I no longer exist in his world - he's been totally drawn back into LI family and OW (not that he ever really left his family).
I just can't see any point in even trying to save my marriage - I can't do it alone. Just very depressed this morning and I'm tired of having all the "would of, could of, should of's" whirling around in my head.
In some ways I do want to move on - forget him - I'm getting close to hating him for what he has done to me, our marriage, our children - but I still keep clinging to the faint hope that he will "wake-up". I know that I'm the only one that can decide what I want - but I'm tired of this indecision.
Easy to say "do nothing" but I'm not a do nothing kind of person. I want my marriage back, I want my husband back but somehow I don't think I'm going to get what I want. So why the hell am I still trying?
Jerri Me 50 WAH 47 M 23 years D 22 S 21 S 30 (previous marriage) B 02/09 marriage is over S 02/09 NC
Jerri, Only you can determine when you've had enough. Nothing says that you have to wait on him. You can move on w/your life and live it to the fullest. You might be pleasantly surprised to find that there are lots of things to do, places to go, hobbies to participate in and yes, people to meet. Do not sit around waiting on him. Get out there and start doing for you.
If the good Lord so deems that he is meant to be w/you, he'll assist your h in finding a way back to you. Until then, leave your h in God's hands so that he can work on him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Wednesday I had a consult with yet another attorney. This one was much better and way more positive about my situation.
After thinking things through, I've decided to file for divorce. I see no point in hanging around waiting on someone who treats me with such hatred and disrespect. If he wants to throw away a decent marriage for 23 years and get lost in his fantasy world - he can - I won't be around to help him find his way back.
This isn't something I really want to do but I've decided I have to, to protect me from this person I no longer know, can no longer trust and who would rather see me dead. I'm so sad at having to do this but I really see no other option.
Jerri Me 50 WAH 47 M 23 years D 22 S 21 S 30 (previous marriage) B 02/09 marriage is over S 02/09 NC
