"She may feel she cannot turn this thing around now anyhow,..."
25yearsmlc posted this statement in a thread about a spouse that wanted a divorce and it is something that I have really been curious in my situation.
I am wondering from the people that have been through this to the end. If a spouse feels this way does it work it self out or did you end up needing to address it at sometime in your situation?
My wife said it is too late, could never see herself with me in the future, does not love me, it was all said, and I would say it is said over and over again on these forums.
In my situation 3 months after all of this was said, she and I now are going to go to our second marriage counselling together, and told our counselor that not only does she want a strong marriage she wants a superior marriage with me.
This can be done, but I never addressed what she has said to me, I will never forget it, by I can forgive her for saying it. I am strong enough that I do not need an apology for all the ugly things that she has said, and I do not want to go back and bring those emotions that she had back up with her, just too scary.
By the way, I also learned not to believe anything she said when she was in the fog, I think that is one of the rules here.
