After 13 years and 2 kids (youngest 6) she walks out, almost immediately files for divorce, has an affair, and turns 40. We have been separated 5 mos on April 2, her newest line is "I never truly gave you my heart". How do I validate this statement in the small amount of time we talk about the R? I suspectt he affair is over, or on the rocks (not sure though), and despite the fact I saw them kissing on the side of the road, I'm not 100% sure it went any farther (there is a hotel rcpt 3 hrs away, but the explanation is marginally believable).
I don't talk about the EA/PA? anymore, despite confronting her on it 2 weeks ago. She disappeared last weekend (he went home to his wife the week before). I haven't always taken the high road, I have insulted, pursued etc. But not for a few months now. She has always been insecure, and has told our friends that I must be going through her vehicle to get this rcpt (it fell out of the passenger door when I was helping load the kids). She is worried I'll trash the furniture left in the house (I would never...it's really nice stuff, and all hers), and when she picked up her ATV (registered in my name..gift to her), she was concerned I would wait until I knew she was on it and report it stolen. Her father is a very paranoid person and I suspect his hand in these decisions, but no real proof other than patterns.
The papers are filed, (before the mediated trial separation ran out) and she is proceeding full steam. So even though we still have 7 mos before a no-contest D can be granted, She's rushing.
How do I validate the ILYBNILWY or the "I never truly gave you my heart statements" even though I know them to be false?
Me: 36 years old 1st marriage Wife: 40 years old second marriage S: 12 D: 6 Status: Separated Nov 2/08, Served papers Feb 18/09. PA confirmed 03/09 Custody: 1 week on, 1 week off, wife wants sole.
