Well, everything had been pretty stagnant until last Saturday.
Here's the update...it isn't horrible, but it isn't shiny either.
On Sat. when I woke up my wife asked me about a check that I had but did not cash. It was for a decent amount, but I had been saving it for a lawyer. She knew I had it, but hadn't asked me about it. But Sat. she said she needed it to pay bills. I gave it to her and she deposited it into the account. She tells me that I should keep half of it. So now we're back to the yours/mine stuff again.
Then later on that day we went to the cell phone store so she could exchange her phone. Now the cell phone account is in my name. She goes ahead and exhanges her phone and renews the contract for two years. I don't think that she is malicious in that way, but I did find it odd that she would renew a contract for an account in my name if she plans on being divorced in a couple months.
So yesterday I talked to a good friend of mine and my wife had gone to lunch with his wife that previous Friday. I asked him if his wife had said anything to him about it and he told me that all she said was that the paperwork had been filled out and so she (my friend's wife) assumed it was a done deal.
Today (monday) she is paying bills and is missing the bill for the rings we bought in November. She asked if I took that bill. I told her no. I just let it go because there was no need to escalate that.
Then tonight she asked about my cousin's baby. She told me she'd like to see the baby but didn't know if she would be allowed. I asked her what she was talking about and she said "Well, you know, I didn't know if they were all wierd about this."
So this is where I stand. After all of this crap, I seem to be back where I started. Maybe I waited too long. Maybe she's trying to push to make me push back. I don't know. I had planned on talking with her abot all this over the coming weekend, but it turns out that's Easter weekend and I don't want to ruin the holiday if things go poorly.
I'm a bit trapped here and I have no idea what to do next. I thought I was doing well, but it seems to be sliding backwards quickly. I'm not sure what steps I need to regroup here and I'm running out of time.
Help..I have read Michell's books Divorce Remedy, My wife and I have been married for 11 years. two wonderful boys, and a very happy home. I have built resentment over her weight gain to the point that I damaged our intimacy and relationship, she built up walls like Jericho. Finally she had enough, she informed me that she wanted out. i was shocked..because over the last year I had actually put the physical behind me in our relationship, but the damage was done. Ther is nothing more that I want than to have my "eternal companion with me for ever. I I have made some seriouse changes, but she is still unsure. We are in a no sex relationship, but the hardest part for me is having here heart far from me. We are truly best friends, our councilor tells me that I need to be patient for my wife to see my changes are permanent. How long will this take? I know that I am over those issues, but How can I gain her trust back without begging or pleading?
ME 43 Her 37 Married 6/98 2 sons 8 and 3 Love em tons Seperated March 20th Her- not sure Me willing to make changes
