Monday, my W and I were in court for the last time. No, we aren't divorced. Instead, we are legally separated so she can remain on my insurance until she gets a real job with benefits.
Funny, after court, we went to the local pool hall and shared a few games of pool and a couple Fat Tires. It was a very fun time.
Weird.
I very nicely asked a friend of mine to come over and beat the Sh*T out of me to remind me that who she is with or not with is none of my business anymore. SIGH. That's probably going to take a while to fade, if ever.
Hmm, was dating a woman for a while until I got the "I'm looking for a husband" speech. It was the best thing that could have happened to me. I grew up a whole bunch more from that.
I'm starting a new job on Monday and closing on my new house on Tuesday. I hope my W doesn't get too bent about my not telling her about the house. I didn't feel I could trust her not to tell me "If you can afford to buy a house, you can afford to pay me more."
The kids are doing pretty well as things haven't changed much. In fact, they are probably seeing their Mom more now than they were in April and May of last year. She moved out in mid-April last year for a sabbatical that turned into a separation etc.
Another strange thing. I've grown and changed so much and our marriage was so dysfunctional that I sometimes feel like I've never been married. LOL.
Anyway. It's definitely a new phase of things.
Last thought. A guy I work with was telling me that his Uncle was divorced for 10 years before re-marrying his former wife and now they are happier than ever.
So, I'm glad that we are really getting along well and you never know what the future will bring.
They say that divorce starts in the mind. Once it takes root there, everything else follows.
I think that's why a switch goes off.. when you go from wanting and hoping for the marriage, relationship to find its way back.. to just letting go, allowing it to slip away.
Ex had to convince me by being as big a jerk as possible not to hold on, not to have even the slightest twinge of anything with him.
The past is gone, the future is unknown... hello to the present.. our treadmill of life!
you dont need to tell her anything, she decided to remove herself from your life, so what you do with it is non of her business anymore, it used to, but it isnt'.
and, oh! he he, welcome
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
