Interesting day somewhat. H and I had problems before the As. Not rocket science. But I was reminded today of one aspect of his attitude and I actually don't miss having to deal with it. Shut my mouth, I know.
What I see in this younger generation is a sense of entitlement. That everyone owes them something. The cop owes it to let them off of this speeding ticket. The boss owes it to give them a day off. My H is not young enough to be a part of this generation but is somehow in it, too. He takes S13 to Dr. off base today. I go to the appt late because I just got off work and I really wasn't even needed there...so I didn't bust my butt to get there. As soon as I get there, H starts trashing the Doc. Well, it is a walk-in clinic. What did you really expect??? So the doc calls an ortho doc to get some direction for S13's pain. Doc thinks maybe the growth plate is dislocated or something...who REALLY knows?? So H thinks the doc is crazy. Okay. If I thought the doc was crazy, I would say thanks, take what he had to offer and leave the rest. Make an appt with the military doc next day and see what they say. Discard what this doc says. But no. He trashes what he says. Doc gives him note to get crutches and H goes and gets them! S13 can walk just fine! Yeah, it's painful, I'm sure, but if you think the doc is a quack, do you really go spend $30 on crutches, just because he told you to, or do you go see someone you trust the next day and act on their advice instead?? I mean really, we're talking less than 24 hours here....the kid couldn't wait 24 hours??? It wasn't broken! Anyway. So then H calls and he is PO'd cause he spent $30 for the crutches. And I'm like, then why did you??? The kid was making it around okay!! Send him to school with the doc's note about no PE. Make an appt first thing in the a.m. and go from there!!!
So he's mad and he's gonna go talk to the shirt tomorrow because it's not right that he had to pay the $30 for crutches, and besides, that clinic was just awful. And I am so thankful tonight to not be in that house and having to listen to it. Maybe it's wrong, but it's just how I feel.
Thought ya'll could at least use a laugh (kind of). I didn't react. I did not say squat about what I would have done. Not my problem. No more saving.
25, have you found any children (other than your own) to terrorize?
Hope the previous thread links, but don't think it will. Will fix sooner or later.
Melissa
Last edited by Mellenmack; 02/19/0901:25 AM.
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
Mel, I hear you about not having to listen to someone complaining all the time. My wife is always complaining about someone or something. I just noticed today how relaxing my house is with just me and my daughter. Good job on not enabling him. Wow, didn't realize till today you have been seperated for so long. At what point do you think it's too late to get back together? My parents were divorced for six years and then remarried. They are still together. Keep the faith!!! And thanks for supporting me. I finally figured out how to find you!
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
AFWAW, I gotta agree with how much less drama there is in the house. It is nice to not have to clear everything with someone else. How long will I wait? It's a good question. I have no patience. Some people complain that they have very little patience...yeah, I have none. On the other hand, I did wait ten years for him to quit drinking. I am finishing my master's in May. At that point I will be ready to get this settled. I won't have so many other things to worry about then. Just so many dang little "bits" in my mind, if you know what I mean. I have been working on this degree for 3 years now, and I really don't remember life without working on it. lmao. What will I do with all the extra time that I am not having to spend on here? What will I do with all the extra money because it will be more than double my pay. And that is with this school district. With a move, I might be able to make more, and yeah, it is something I would consider. I don't want to. But I won't play second fiddle for long either.
VDad, I am glad I didn't go there, too. Funny thing is, he didn't even send S13 to school with the stupid crutches today anyway and didn't even make him an appt today either!!! lmfao. so he got himself in a tizzy over nothing.
He is back to wanting his cake and eating it too, today. The funny thing is, I have a new bed. Nobody is eating cake in this bed. Nobody, nohow. So. There I go.
Nothing else new to report. Still praying every night for strength. Still getting it, surprisingly!
Thank ya'll.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
Counseling and Psychology. I don't want to hang a shingle, though. I work at the high school in the guidance department and all I want to do is check transcripts, graduate these kids, and sometimes help them find themselves in this crazy world.
M
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
The funny thing is, I have a new bed. Nobody is eating cake in this bed. Nobody, nohow. So. There I go.
That's funny. you made me laugh.
I'm sure it's lovely not listening to the complaining. Tonight I've been tuning out the complaining about how many lights are on...what the British are like...I don't know, I didn't hear the rest. lol
Nobody eating the cake. That is funny. Thats great on your masters. At least you won't have to worry about your financial future. Good deal.
Glad to see God is giving you strength. It definitely helps. I'm surprised your H didn't send your son to school with the crutches after all of that. It was better that you were not there. Definitely don't need him taking anything out on you.
I do hope you wait for things to turn around. But only you can decide that and if it will.
Good deal. Nothing better than doubling your pay.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Well today he does the "I don't want to hold this over your head" bit. And finally I just told him to file the papers. Of course my wants will change. It will be one more thing where I will change my mind according to him. And whatever. If he thinks he's gonna hold it over my head, then I would be stupid to want to stay in this marriage. Who wants a marriage like that?? So whatever. Maybe he will come out of his dumb fog before it's final, but I don't care anymore. I don't know why I put up with this cr@p as long as I have. I won't be the one to file, but I'm sure not gonna slow this train down either. I will be friendly, but we will not be friends. I don't get it, but whatever. He will have to answer to the kids and his parents. My parents wanted this all along, so it's no love lost there.
Thanks for listening to me rant. I wish things were different. I wish we could both do better by each other, but he's not willing, and I deserve to not have this held over me or be punished for this the rest of my life.
Headed to the basketball game. Ya'll have a good night. Will check in later!
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
