New year, new challenges. W pregnant by OM.

[HopefultotheEnd]

Wow...I really don't know what to think/feel.
I've been doing really well...mostly...it's just wierd.

Her being pregnant by another man for some reason doesn't change the root of how I feel about her.

She is of course freaking out, and I feel...well in all honesty relief. There is nothing for me to do...In another life I would be her hero but...no...just no.

Why am I not more pissed off? That I don't know.
It almost makes me less angry at her...Do I feel sorry for her?
Will the anger come later?
My best guess is that I'm to a place where I'm no longer going to stress over her mistakes...but I still love her.

I just don't know what to think.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Wow.

[Phoenixdeux]

Yep, it's her issue now. Maybe you feel relief that it isn't your issue to deal with. No reason to feel angry; she's made a series of choices that you do not agree with, but can't control. If she's not angry about her life choices (including failure to use proper contraception), then why should you be?

[JDOllie]

Affairs are short-lived, fantasies - rebound-type relationships. RARELY ever is the person someone that is long-term relationship material.

Hence the freak-out. I imagine it is surreal right now, so I understand your feelings.

She is reaping what she sowed - unfortunately, you, your kids, and a whole lot of other people will also reap her sowing as well.

[HopefultotheEnd]

Surreal is one way to describe it.

Not often that I see a reply from puppy that's only one word.

I've been kinda doing doubletakes all day.

[Still Waters]

Yeah I think that "Wow" pretty much sums it up.

There really is nothing you can do. Your W has pretty much hit bottom, and it's an absolute tragedy that a new life is going to be brought into the mess she created.

But of course you still love her because you are a good man. You can't save her from herself anymore, but that doesn't mean you have to hate her.

[HopefultotheEnd]

W called me yesterday to let me know that she was going to talk to OM's mom about things...it's an hour away so I pretty much figured I'd pick up the kids. She called me later asking if I would. I didn't mind.

This whole situation makes me realize that my love for her isn't going to go away and that it makes me vulnerable. I need to protect myself against that.

[pollyanna]

I swear you guys on this site are a breed unto your own. Where do you go from here ? How do you feel ?