Yes I have taken advice and in the nick of time. H has been underhand in his attempts to start selling assets. But what he is doing is illegal and lawyer has put a stop to any further action.
Phew.... so at this stage everything is ok financially. It was another show of who he has become. Definitley not the man I married. I would go so far to say that I would not be so disrespectful to an alien to compare him to one. He is plain out and out crazy.
Feel powerful and hopeful today. Great feeling , so going to work hard on maintaining it.
Go, pollyanna, Go!!! I knew you'd feel better once you did something...anything usually helps!
Glad you caught on in time as well. I suspect my H has done some underhanded things too...but, I'm not up for the battle to sort it all out. My settlement is fair, and I'm gonna let the rest go.
Take care of you!!! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Thats what I want. A fair settlement. Nothing more and nothing less. I have been told that it is not fair until both parties feel that it NOT fair. No winners
I just read through this thread and I wanted to comment.
I know how hard it is to go through this. My C describes it perfectly as "The death of a dream" So you are essentially going through the grieving process.
It can be the death of a dream, a vision, or your plans for the future. Doesn't matter, it has changed and now we have to go through the process of mourning and moving forward with Grace.
In the 4 months since this has started for me, I have noticed that I circulate through the process and it gets easier each time.
Easier said than done, I know. Lots of Hugs to you!
Me36 H35 T18/M12 S10/D8 Speech 11/08 Sep:11/08 Poss EA 6/08 H filed D Papers 2/13/09 My Story
There is not one single bright side or winner in this crap. ( Except weight loss - I am down to size 4 -6. From 10 - 12.) BUT I would rather be fat and happy.
Anyways little steps . Lets see where this takes us.
PS If I see one more couple today I will scream !!!!!!!!! If i hear one more person say ' Babe ' I will kill
I know it's been awhile but I am back on now. Not much new with me other than the same feelings and emotions that your having. Yesterday sucked, today was ok and I guess we'll see what tomorrow brings.
Yea I know what you mean about happy couples. The really sad part is that I thought I was one of them.
Take care and talk to you soon.
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
He has shown me not one bit of respect or caring in 6 months.
Why am I so reluctant to take the next step and free myself from him ?
There has been no progress at at anything I have tried to do. It is like he is just dead inside. He hears nothing, feels nothing, says nothing, considers no-one and does not think really past today. I have taken time for me. I do get out. I have a holiday planned for July. How long does this feeling of loss and sadness last ?
My situation has dragged on for years with H making a stand 6 months or so ago, he left and is involved with OW. We are in a yukky place right now regarding our next step.
I am certain H has moved on but is not 100% sure if it is what he really wants. I think he is looking at me as a back up plan if life turns out to be crap further down the road.
He blames me for absolutly everything. It is my fault due to my A 5 yers ago that we are separated. Possibly so BUT is he not responsible also for his choice to leave the home and family ?
We look to lose so much money in this ecomony and it fact it has cost us 10s 0f thousands already. Again my fault.
H knows I am sorry, he knows i would never ever do it again ( he tells me that anyway )he knows i want the marriage and yet he continues to carry out punishing behavior towards myself and our kids. He is full of self pity and anger. ll the injustices that have occured in his life.
Lots of Hugs to you!