OK some thoughts needed here.... What if per say the OM or OW would happen to send flowers to your home that you share with your beloved but *gone off the deep end* spouse. or he or she comes home with a V day present? What would be the best route to take? Ignore it? throw the flowers out into the yard? Act like you don't give a furry rats arse?
Gman Me 40 W 30 kids B 11 B 10 D 8 Been here off and on since 06. PA Confirmed Dec 08.. With God, anything is possible. Do or do not there is no try. Sometimes you have to roll the hard six...
I had something similar....when my H gave me the ILYBNILY anymore speech, he was having an EA with the ow. The ow went away for 6 months to travel in Asia and Australia, in that time my H celebrated his 34th birthday...the ow sent him a present (quite big) by mail from Australia !!!! He came home that day, and proudly stood in the doorway saying...'look what ow sent me !!! Isn't that sweet ??' I nearly killed him !! (well, as a matter of speech). I cried and cried and told him it was SOOOOOOO insensitive of him to bring that thing to the house and I told him I didn't want it in here and to get rid of it !!! I remember H looked at me as if he was thinking...'what are you making a big deal about..?' But my heart was so damaged...as an MLC'er at the time, he really didn't realize the pain it had caused and the absurdity of him bringing that thing home to show off as a trophy !
What should I have done?
No idea, but I did what I felt right then and there.
Take care
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
What would be the best route to take? Ignore it? throw the flowers out into the yard? Act like you don't give a furry rats arse?
My 2 cents: I would ask her politely but coldly to remove the flowers/present from my house. I wouldn't touch the flowers myself, though. Don't give her a chance to defend OM and his presents.
What makes you think he's going to send her flowers to your house? that would be too outrageous!
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Hello and thank you all!!!! I'm just trying to cover a what if. (sorry Cinders) I don't know if my beloveds OM would be so bold but I just wondered what others might say or do. So far really great advice!!
Gman Me 40 W 30 kids B 11 B 10 D 8 Been here off and on since 06. PA Confirmed Dec 08.. With God, anything is possible. Do or do not there is no try. Sometimes you have to roll the hard six...
This is a true story. My h's ow sent flowers to our house for his birthday and signed it as if she were a client - it said, "You give good service, signed, Company name." How's that for class and nerve? He ripped up the card right away and the flowers soon followed. This was at the very beginning and was one of the reasons I realized he was having an affair.
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