What if all of the MLC BS is really just about OW? Is he just confused about OW and in love with her? Is that why he is so confused or is MLC real? Please tell me MLC is real. I know it has to be because his behavior seemed to start before he met OW. He has limited his R with his kids too, not just me. He has left his home, family, familiar way of life ( which is and has been good) if this is just aboout the OW then she has some strong hold on him. He has said that he just wants to be alone, He told me that the kids and I are "obligations" and doesn't want any obligations. He said if i think he is leaving my just to get into another relationship I am crazy. OK then, why OW????
h 43 me 42 kids 16&14 seperated dec 08 mlc behavior since nov 05
Hope, MLC is a very real situation. It's a time in our lives that we re-evaluate where we've been, where we are at now and what we think we never experienced and/or lost along the way.
MLC is about childhood issues, issues that were never resolved a long time ago. It's a place that someone experiencing a severe crisis goes back to in order to revisit that time. It's a place/time that they were stunted emotionally and now they have to grow up from that point. It's facing the demons, accepting that they were not the blame for what transpired and grow up.
What you've described is a crisis and yes, he is following the path of the mlcer who has board the Mother Ship and will not return for a very long time. They disconnect w/everything, bit by bit. BTW, time to ensure that your assets and finances are taken care of...they all like to spend until the money is gone and the credit cards are maxed out. No, joking...I'm being very serious. Do not think for one minute that he's different from the rest of them, because he's not, once he's board the Mother Ship.
Read everything you can and understand that this is a very emotional journey that is driven by depression. You will not be able to reason w/him because you can't when they are flying high on emotions. The best thing you can do....take care of yourself first and then your children. Protect your assets and do not rely on him for anything. Expectations are gone...they are now zero when it comes to him. The man you are looking at is a mirror image of the man you married, i.e., the exact opposite.
Keep the focus on you...believe nothing he tells you and only 50% of what he does. One last thing, please keep to one thread. When you have more than one out there, it's very difficult for us to follow your path and assist you.
