{{JD}} Wow that was something about the video clip at church..it is SO great when God really just says something to YOU at a moment when you are having a doubt isn't it??
Glad you are having a good weekend
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Never mind about the above post. I found it! God does have his own way of working. I would take that as a sign. I really wish I would get one. Then again I guess I would have to get out of the house unless he plans on showing me something here. Who knows other than him.
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
God does have a way of showing us what we need to do. We just need to keep aware of it.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
It was very cool - I try not to be all "mystical" about stuff - some people will turn a gust of air into something. I'm an oddball - a strictly logical person with a very strong faith.
It was funny too - W called me 5 or 6 times today, I ignored. She finally texted me about watching kids after school Monday so she could go to a study group. (she always picks up from school). I said I would.
Then - on the 7th day of going black, and getting NO contact from her at all, she sent me the oddest text, let me break it down:
"Thank you! Your message on the voice mail is cheesy. Made me laugh. Tell the kids i love them. How were their games? Oh and tell them my hair is not red anymore :)"
THE BREAKDOWN: 1. "Thank you!" - Never thanks me for watching kids
2. "Your message on the voice mail is cheesy. Made me laugh." - Kids and I recorded a new voice mail because W had been on there, and she got on our voice mail remotely and erased the message with her voice. I recorded a new one saying it was our "family", and then me, D8, and S6 said our names - obviously without W's in there. And for W to say something positive about me/us is unheard of.
3. "How were their games?" She has never asked about their basketball/cheerleading games before. Funny - I used to text her about them, but now not!
4. "Oh and tell them my hair is not red anymore" When she started her MLC, one of the things she did was cut her hair super short and dye it this weird purply-red color. It was sort of how she had it cut before me. I don't know if it was a throw-back to that or what. But she is growing out her hair, and coloring it back - sort of odd.
(heh, before I get ahead of myself, of course, now maybe it's green!)
Anyway, it was a good day, took kids roller skating, then let them play at a friends.
Best thing of all - I didn't even respond to W's text. I did tell the kids what she said, but back to complete darkness.
I don't know what she's going to do - I will have to see her at b-ball practice for S6, but I'm going to do the same thing: sit on the other end, and focus on S6. She's going to be showing off her hair, and I'm not even going to notice she's there. I just hope it's not something horrible, and she asks me how I like it. I'll have to say something generic like, "Wow, it's really something!"
It's hard for me - because there is a part of me that thinks I should at least be "nice" - but then the logical part of me smacks myself in the face, and says, "Dude - she is having an AFFAIR, tearing apart your family, and lying to your daughter and son! What are you thinking?!?!"
The best thing about this is that I think I'm finally over the hump - I had a couple of REALLY rough days this week with going dark, but I'm past it now, and if you look at Silva as an example, he was chomping at the bit the first few days, and then held on, and I think I noticed around day 12 or so, his attitude really started changing! I'm hoping I'm not far behind him!
