Last thread was locked so, I decided I had better start another. Everything seems to be holding steady. W seems to be on her daily course. I was Rereading "Divorce Remedy" chapter on Putting it all together. Is it true that in most of the MLC sitch's, That you need to wait for them to make some move of some kind. I don't see where there can be any movement by us other than no pressure and just work on yourself.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
RAL you have to wait on them to make the move...therefore during this time work on your self. That is what a big part of BDing is... not necessarily working on M but mainly on your self to focus about you and your needs and wants and to GAL..so that if they should not return that YOU are in a better place. You are learning, congrads!, ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
I question, sometimes, if I have more of a WAS, MLC, menopause, All the above, or, a W who is just finished with me. I hate to "drag" her through this along with me.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Ok, there is self pity.."Why is she doing this to poor little me?"
And that is lame.
And then there is self loathing..."I hate to "drag" her through this along with me."
I'd rather deal with self pity because all that takes is a few verbal 2x4's hopefully.
Self Loathing usually takes a few visits to a C and time and money.
IF she was a true WAS, from my point of view as a former WAH, she would be gone, you wouldn't talk, because she would want 'nothing' to do with you except to talk about the legal niceties of how to cut any ties to you.
It's good you are looking into the mirror, just don't imagine a monster when you see a man that you can improve upon.
MLC buzz words:
numb, I don't love you the way I should, I don't love you like_______ (fill in the blank), I don't know what I want.
Menopause? I don't know. Don't have the parts and my wife has not yet hit it.
But WAS? I could very well be wrong, but rememebering what I felt? No I don't think she is a WAS.
Before you ask...right click on my name, go to view posts and find it somewhere in the 5000 + posts...it will kill some time for you and I don't feel like re-hashing.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
