Hey FIB, a belated happy b-day! Havn't been around at all so I have some catching up to do! From the little I've read you sound adjusted as much as humanly expected to the bitterness! Good for you!
My best... cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
Hi all...typing from my son's Pinewood Derby. His car is taking first place. As expected, XXX split already for her Friday night out.
She had another outburst last night in frobt of the kids...storming out of the house and slamming the door as they watched, upsetting them.
My W is truly dead.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, whoo hooo for first place! Brings back memories of my son's pinewood derby (except the first place part-lol).
Man, your wife is really pis*ing me off! She is the freakin' adult here. She must be the one to teach them how to behave in life. They need to feel safe with her. They need to be able to look to her for comfort. Not to add to their sadness.
FIB, love on them extra hard this weekend. Hang in there, my friend. They need you right now to be the parent. She obviously is not up to the job.
My daughter had an 'accident' tonite. I asked one of the other mothers to stay with my daughter in the BR while I ran home to get her clean clothes and sneakers. She cried when I was chabging her out of embarrassment.
My STBXW is a selfish POS.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
My daughter had an 'accident' tonite. I asked one of the other mothers to stay with my daughter in the BR while I ran home to get her clean clothes and sneakers. She cried when I was chabging her out of embarrassment.
My STBXW is a selfish POS.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Awwwww FIB. I am so sorry. (((((FIB))))) (((((FIB's Little Girl)))))
Keep on doing what you are doing. Your children will remember. You don't have to say a word. Children are way more perceptive than we adults usually give them credit for.
BTW..Isn't it great being 50? There is something awesome about making it that far, don't you think?
Later, Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Oh FIB, I am so sorry for your little girl, it just breaks my heart hearing about it.
She will feel it, that you were the one there for her. I know how much this is hurting you. Gosh, I wish I could have just five minutes with your wife - mom to mom. It would not be pretty.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, really, your wife is not worth your time or your thoughts. Go back to basic dbing. Focus on you and your kids. What makes you happy? What new things are you going to try out?
You did your best, above and beyond. Your wife does not realize what she is giving up, the damage she is doing, how much her actions are hurting your beautiful children.
But, you cannot do anything about her or her actions. You can only control you.
So, try, my friend, to seize the day. Try to always give extra hugs to your kids and really try to find what holds you interest, what brings you peace, what puts a smile your face. And let your w blow in the wind.
There is something awesome about making it that far, don't you think?