Hi all...no news to share @ XH. Have been busy with work, got a job by me and have to stay with family to work. I think XH is mad at me for not coming back to where I use to live. He was trying to get me a job there. No communication from him at all. Well XH B this week, I think I will be nice and send him a bcard. Hope everyone is well and DBing....
Anything good in life is worth waiting for! Take care of you!
H-43 W-52 M-6/21/90 LU-NIL-7/03 M/OUT- 7/03 Found out @ OW-7/03 (was involved before the move out) D- 6/23/05 (married 15 yrs- together 17 yrs)
Feeling alittle lost and cant get a mind set for myself. Xh birthday was this week. Called to say HB...he sounded surprised I called and said thank you. Told me he was alittle busy working on something. Asked him what he was doing for his birthday, he said nothing. Then told me in the next breathe that he had three dates for the next night...WHAT???? Who the hell asked him that..but he had to tell me. I said wow good for you! and laughed said ok well just wanted to say Happt Birthday and have a good day....
Here we go again...he has been distant again, been almost two mo's since talking with him and made the slip...back in a tunnel I guess. Will it be another 5 yrs again ...UGH
Anything good in life is worth waiting for! Take care of you!
H-43 W-52 M-6/21/90 LU-NIL-7/03 M/OUT- 7/03 Found out @ OW-7/03 (was involved before the move out) D- 6/23/05 (married 15 yrs- together 17 yrs)
F, I had to chuckle at what you posted. He slipped up and told you that he wasn't doing anything for his birthday, but....he wanted to make sure you knew he had dates for the next night. I suspect he's not dating that much, if at all. Three dates for the same night? I don't think so.
Your xh doesn't want you to know that his life is not going the way he planned it. Just let the comment slide off your back and continue doing what you've been doing.
He's not out of the tunnel yet...but time will tell as to just how fast he's moving towards the finish line.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi all. I know its been sometime since I have been on here..I had gotten a new job and had to move down by family members and of course with the crunch..no internet there. Alas I do go home every other weekend now....
Things have been moving along...have talked to XH in IM messages but this was back in early Dec...
XH and I where talking about our youngest D and her H... and he said that I was the only one to really know him...well hello yeah, 17 yrs...but I was nice I just listened... then came from him the "do you miss me" let me tell you I sat there and was in a sweat...I did tell him I did...and then asked if he missed me....(I know I know) but I got an answer back from him....said "he thinks about me everyday and tells everyone what a great wife I was!" He then asked "if I ever thought about us going back"...I said yeah sometimes.... he said "he did too but dont really want to premote false hope no hope is better than false hope"
...talk about falling off the chair, but then turned around and said "you never know what the future holds for us..he may move down to the biggest fishing capital of the world one day."
Then asked me "if I was ever going back up north, and asked if I was bringing my friend with me (BF)" and I said I dont think so and he stated that he "wanted to spend some time together."
I have not left the state! I did not run to him...and have talked to him just once on the phone....again youngest D has a problem with her H now..UGH!
I went back to being dark and live my life... I did call him for NY Eve but got his voice mail...which I just left a nice message and thats it...
I can not believe the turn of events that have been going on with this man...he comes out for a little bit then back in the whole.
Anyway hope all is well with all my fellow FB people!!! Keep up the DBing.... Hope everyone has a great New Year!!!
Always FBabe
Anything good in life is worth waiting for! Take care of you!
H-43 W-52 M-6/21/90 LU-NIL-7/03 M/OUT- 7/03 Found out @ OW-7/03 (was involved before the move out) D- 6/23/05 (married 15 yrs- together 17 yrs)
Your h is actually focusing on himself a bit and has had some moments of clarity. Your move may have given him enough space to actually work on himself and not focus on you. You handled the conversation well. Keep your expectations at zero. Continue doing what you are doing as he feels comfortable in talking to you about his feelings.
Great job!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hope everyone is well and you all are doing your DB by the book!!!! It works..for some it takes longer then others but it does work. Just an update...as you guys know..I have had contact with my XH in the past year...conversations and phone calls are alittle more frequent. Which is great! My youngest D has moved in with her dad and things are going well for them. I am so happy for them both! They needed each other. Now he gets to fall in love with our youngest GD and I am so jealous!! LOL> Well per our last phone conversation last week, my XH asked me when I was coming to visit and I told him which should be in the next three weeks sometime. He stated that he wanted me to come stay with him and my daughter. He told me that he does indeed miss me and he doesnt know what the %$#* he was thinking back then. Its exciting news...and I thanked him for that. However I still remain dark. I told him I would think about it and appreciated the invitation. He even has gone so far as to ask me to look for a job for him where I am now living as he wants to get out of NY. So as you can see things has progressed and to all my friends here and who has posted to me THANK YOU! Sometimes I have wanted to just jump right back in but you guys have helped me alot keep doing the DBing... I know I am not on frequently as I work down south now and dont really have alot of access to the internet...but I did want to let you know of the progress! As for the BF, things have been steadily going down hill and not because of the XH but because of his drinking...and his lack of relationship with me. I am thinking he has been my crutch..so for that I will be re-evaluating alot...But anyway just wanted to say thanks and keep DBing!!!
Anything good in life is worth waiting for! Take care of you!
H-43 W-52 M-6/21/90 LU-NIL-7/03 M/OUT- 7/03 Found out @ OW-7/03 (was involved before the move out) D- 6/23/05 (married 15 yrs- together 17 yrs)
