Life is too short to just keep wondering and waiting.
Funny, I thought your wife had the MLC problem. Cause...you know, that's a pretty standard MLC line. One one hand you're right life is short...on the other you did make a vow.
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You're not going to get many people here to agree, or applaude you for deciding that life is too short.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I'm not looking for applause, I'm looking for guidance, I'm looking for a way to improve my family life and hopefully my marriage. I take my vows very seriously, that is what has kept me holding on so long. I admit, I'm at my witts end, I don't know what to do. When I posted here, I was hoping I would find someone who has gone through what I'm dealing with and came out the other end smiling and happy. I'm sorry if I gave a different impression, truely I appreciate all of your advise, and the advise of others. My biggest fear is that my children one day are going to look back on their childhood in a not so fond way due to all this crap. Family as we know it, is put on hold until she finishes being a teenager again. It's frustrating.
We all are going through this awful stuff. I'm thick in the middle of it and darn near ready to lose my house. I'm still smiling. You only have control over YOU.
It is very frustrating. We know. It is what it is though. You have to make the best of your circumstances and keep pressing forward.
I came through with my marriage intact, I'd be lying to say I was smiling or even happy right way So.
If you want to quit, quit. If you cannot forgive, then quit.
Yes Family as you knew it is put on hold. But you're still a parent so you do what you can to insulate your children.
I don't talk down to you, I don't coddle, I don't want placations, nor praise. When I'm a jerk its because your being a wuss, or at least coming across as one.
This isn't easy, having mom hold your hand won't get you through boot camp, but toughening up will.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
If I wanted to quit, I would have already done it, I would not need guidance for that, nor do enjoy being called a wuss, thats certainly a first for me.
My marriage is hanging by a thread, I just signed the last set of divorce papers.The judgement from the court could come anyday. But I have not given up, I am still here. I want everyone on here to succeed, to have their marriages restored. Your children will someday look back and see what you have done. Put your energy into them, and into yourself.they will remember that.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023