Should I encourage W to participate on this site?

[EnergyAZ]

Hey guys,

Since the bomb dropped, I have found this site to be a source of excellent information, comfort, and inspiration. I also have felt some kinship in being able to relate to people, knowing I am not alone and my problems in life arent so unique after all. Its been extremely helpful

And I think my W could find this place beneficial as well and I am considering asking her to register and participate on this site.

But she is going to likely search my username and read all my posts, and I am not sure if I am terribly comfortable with that. Many things I said was in the confidence she would never see them. It was for me, not her (cause she was WAW and wouldnt have come here anyway)

What do you guys think?

[frank_D]

NO

[Trixi]

I second that NO

[EnergyAZ]

Ok then - that answers that!

Thanks!

[frank_D]

Do not even TELL her you use this site. It's private information right now.

[Bridgestone]

And I think my W could find this place beneficial as well

How?? In what ways?

IF (that's a big if) you could guarantee she couldn't figure out which poster was you, what do you think she could gain from reading here?

It was for me, not her (cause she was WAW and wouldnt have come here anyway)

You never know... there are WAW's & AWAW that come here.

Maybe she could use some of their excellent information, comfort, inspiration, know she was not alone and her problems in life were not so unique after all.

[EnergyAZ]

"How?? In what ways?"

"Maybe she could use some of their excellent information, comfort, inspiration, know she was not alone and her problems in life were not so unique after all."

Exactly!


And she would totally know, I use the same internet handle since 1993.

But I found this site to be very beneficial. And I know there is support for people who Walked Away here too. Its really helped me understand my W better. But, for example...she never even heard the term 'Walk Away Wife' before. When I explained it to her, she looked relieved that I was more understanding of her than she might have thought..and that I was willing to accept ownership of the issues that compelled her to walk away.

So now that we appear to be entering the 'piecing' phase, another term she was unfamiliar with - I started to wonder if she could benefit from this site as much as I had.

I tell ya what though, learning things here and applying them in our life has scored me some major brownie points! :-)

[Bridgestone]

"How?? In what ways?"

"Maybe she could use some of their excellent information, comfort, inspiration, know she was not alone and her problems in life were not so unique after all."

Exactly!

I would agree 100%

And she would totally know, I use the same internet handle since 1993.

You can request a change from the mods.. I believe it affects all past posts. I maybe wrong about that. SMW did this, did she not?

But, for example...she never even heard the term 'Walk Away Wife' before.

All it takes is a 'google' search, trust me.. that's how I found this place.

I tell ya what though, learning things here and applying them in our life has scored me some major brownie points! :-)

I know you know this then, but I will repeat it... make sure they are real and consistant to the new EnergyAZ.

[EnergyAZ]

I am always trying to be the best person I can be. But sometimes one's ego and pride might distort perception. Once I had the blinders removed, I knew what I needed to do to improve and I took to it with gusto.

And like with anything else, when you start seeing results, it encourages you to keep going.

I am an absolute believer in the things I have learned here. They work! Thats why I was wondering if I should encourage W to participate here as well. I wouldnt want her to waste time on something I didnt think had any merit.

[K4D]

Oops. Guess I probably made a major mistake. My wife said she was going to join a divorce support group online and asked which one I use so she doesn't use the same. I told her this one. Maybe I shouldn't have said that.

Kevin