m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
My current situation is , Seperated since Sept 2007. Wife filed for divorce 1 year ago this month, has not finished divorce paperwork. She is in the throes of an MLC. I love her . I do not want this divorce, so I put db practices into effect over a year ago. They work, I backed off, have been friendly, compassionate, helpful when I can. But I give her lots of space.No pressure.Our relationship is always friendly, the children are doing pretty good considering everything.She has her own apartment, she pretty much just spends most of the time alone.
I keep my self busy by being involved in my church body.Just finished my last Divorce Care class last night.All in all doing very good.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
It scares me how much actual power I have in this situation, I could push my wife hard, and this would be over in a week or two.It is like the movie failsafe, my finger is hovering above the button to fire the nuclear missles.The fact that I can even think this way, tells me I need to pray. I am not happy with myself tonight.
I do much better when I don't see her.Part of me wants to see her and then part of me does not.
My wife is living such a fantasy existence.I am so glad this site exists, and the people on it, because I would not be prepared to deal with a mlc wife if all this help and information was not available.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I did a whole heck of alot better when I did not see H at all. Made my life easier and I wasn't on the rollercoater with him.. ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
I concur...once I got past the initial shock, I've been feeling better since H moved out six weeks ago. Finally got to sweep up and throw away the piles of eggshells that had been crushed to calcium dust...!
I still love him, still hope he pulls his head out of that dark place and relearns how to fly right, but right now I really don't want to see him. My life is unquestionably more peaceful without having to deal with his MLC drama.
Best wishes to you, Craig, in running your MLC marathon....
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Good to see you over here, this forum has save my mental health for sure.
Cheers Jeff
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
My wife called and left a message today about wanting my brothers up to date address and phone number for her address book. I did not return her call, she did not ask me to. She came over later to pickup our daughters pillow and asked me if I got her message, I said yes, she seemed miffed that I did not call her back.
I know she is in MLC, and I know I should not be surprised, but I am none the less.She is like a magician pulling a rabbit out of the hat. I never know what she will pull out next.
She is pulling on the leash, but I have already let go.She does not like it.She wants me close at hand,I am her security blanket.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
