My 34th thread. I would have never ever thought that not in a million years.
Stars-Switchfoot
Maybe I've been the problem Maybe I'm the one to blame But even when I turn it off and blame myself The outcome feels the same
I've been thinkin' maybe I've been partly cloudy Maybe I'm the chance of rain And maybe I'm overcast and maybe All my luck's washed down the drain
I've been thinkin' 'bout everyone, everyone you look so lonely But when I look at the stars, When I look at the stars, When I look at the stars I see someone else When I look at the stars, the stars I feel like myself
Stars looking at our planet, Watching entropy and pain And maybe start to wonder How the chaos in our lives could pass as sane
I've been thinkin' 'bout the meaning of resistance Of a hope beyond our own And suddenly the infinite and penitent Began to look like home
I've been thinkin' 'bout everyone, everyone you look so empty But when I look at the stars, When I look at the stars, When I look at the stars I see someone else When I look at the stars, the stars I feel like myself, You!
Stars, Stars
Everyone, everyone you feel so lonely Everyone, ya everyone you feel so empty When I look at the stars, When I look at the stars, When I look at the stars I feel like myself When I look at the stars, the stars I see someone
I've been listening to lots of Switchfoot lately and the songs speak to me.
New Years Eve turned out OK..Out with friends..3 couples as a matter of fact..and me..so I felt a little out of place but went with things in hopes of a good time..and the time was good..a local steakhouse to eat..beers in route there with a designated driver behind the wheel all night...the food and company were great..then on to a local club for dancing..it was nice..a few ladies actually approached me and engaged me which was good..a PMA boost for me..I danced with a few of the ladies who were part of the couples I was with so It all worked out good..in by 3:30am and then up at 10:30 for a brunch at my buddies house..I'm home doing laundry and chores while watching football..
I'm still fighting little bits of drama that pop up concerning MHS38..and am about to just cut my losses there and be done with it..I'm disappointed in myself a way because I never saw much in the way of drama with her but now realize it is there and probably will be until she handles it on her own..it also solidifies my belief that I am a good guy and lots of women out there don't want good guys..
still chatting with golfcoursebeercartgirl and just finished a phone convo with elementaryschoolteacher41.
Hope everyone had a great New Year...and here's to a better 2009
Cheers to a good evening for you! Unfortunately there is always going to be some kind of drama anywhere you go and life in a bubble will not be much fun. The trick IMHO is to recognize it as soon as possible and then step back an observe and then make a decision on the best course of action to take.
We are imperfect people living in a imperfect world some people just don't have the tools to let go of things would whether wallow in it, easier to play victim then to move forward. It's a new year and open to all kinds of things...
Good afternoon, Mike.. and happy first late afternoon of the New Year!
I have a theory. Between the divorce, emotional chaos, finding unconventional but incredible positive support and caring on this board, learning new techniques for dealing with situations, learning that a whole passle of folks are incredible that each person positively changes in subtle ways without knowing it.
Expectations are higher, not because folks are picky, but because they know what is out there and what they've been through. Folks are less likely to 'settle', more likely to pay attention to their inner voice. If something seems great, folks go for it. If something turns out to be off.. it's "Nope, I'm not going there" and direct communication kicks in to deal with the issue.
I don't think it's that you attract batshitt crazy.. is that now you know the signs and deal with it directly. Who knows, maybe something within these women draw you, draw the fixer, the care giver in you.. and then reality hits when the neediness/drama emerges.
Naaaawwwww, that's not all you attract. I guarantee it. I think men who are "knight in shining armor" types magnetically draw women who need rescuing though. I know many men who are too nice for their own good and that is what always seems to happen. Just be a little more wary and discriminating. It will take a lot of work to learn to subtley ferret out the users and clingy needy ones from the genuine women. Good luck with that! I have no idea what specific things to look for but I'm rooting for you!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
