Wife and kids were diagnosed with several food alergies. Wheat , eggs , dairy. So I have been busy shopping and learning to cook with out the above items and still make meals that the kids will eat... Yikes....
I received the Five love language tapes in the mail the other day and will share them with my wife this weekend. She can listen to them if she wants. I think they could be the bases for some good talks about finding ways to meet each others emotional needs in ways that do not make each other uncomfortable for where we are in are healing process.
I need to take a break from this board for a while. I see so many hurting people it drives me nuts. I remember how I felt when I first got started.... Sigh so much hurt in the world I wish I could help more but can't really.
I need to take some time and charge my own batteries and make some headway on projects at work. So I will be taking a break and being pretty quiet for a week or two.
I haven't taken the time to come and look for you. But I found you!
I am catching up on your thread. I just wanted you to know that much of what you have said in the past made perfect sense and has worked.
Things are going well between H and I. No movement as far as reconciling but we are not fighting. WHo knows.
You have a lot to offer with your sitch. I can understand that you feel this board bring you down. I know there are times when I tell myself not to come but in the end I always do. I learn something about myself and others every day. Some of it is priceless.
I am thinking of you and your family. You are in my prayers.
Thanks for stopping by I am glad if I have been able to help you even if just a little.
I apreciate you taking the time to look me up.
My wife in particular and my kids as well are my biggest priority and my biggest joy. I am going to cut way back from being on this board. I need to give more of my time to work but mainly I want to save my emotional energy and conversation for my wife and kids.
I have not posted to your thread for a while because you seemed to be doing very well and your kindness to others has provided you with a wonderfull group of support people.
Thanks for starting to post to TracyL I was worried about her and new you had so much to offer her.
If I can ever be of help to you post to my thread. For now you and your family will stay in my prayers and I apreciate you keeping my family in yours as well.
Thank you for checking in on me today. I had not gotten the chance to read up on your sitch. I will try to do so now. Things seem ok for me, but I am having a hard time not expressing my feelings to H, not detatching very well. I just added a new post re:an e-mail I sent to H today. Take a look if you get a chance and see what you think. Thanks, Kristi
I know you posted to my thread but I wanted to come by and say thank you for giving me another perspective to my sitch. I truly belive that your advice and perspective has helped me enormously in my goal to forgive my H for leaving. Like I said in my thread- I have not forgiven him for the A. I will but it's too soon for me. The wound is healing but it's not closed up yet. It will leave a scar but after a while it will fade with time.
I really do want to forgive H.I don't want to forgive OW. I know this is wrong to say but if I could go back and un-do everything I ever did for her I woud do it in a hearbeat. I will never come to accept her and I will never do anything for her again. I can forgive H but not her.
I have a questions for you- do S's that have A's see the R with their S as no longer existant therefore it's OK to have an A? Do they really see any wrong in what they are doing? And if they do what is it that makes them continue?
I have been pondering this for a while- it's part of the forgiveness table of contents.
Eric,
you give me hope that S's do come around and they can be better than ever. I have hope that if things do work out for me that it will be better than ever and all of this will be worth it.
