What will 2009 bring???Happiness!

[kikifree]

Well, it has been forever since I have posted. Hi all. and best New Year wishes.

Alot has happened theses past few months. Since August H was becoming friendlier. No mean stuff. H is still with OW though.

In September, we becamwe closer. H showed up at my house in the middle of the night, and we slept together. First time in almost 3 yrs.

OW went away to my inlaws to go to college. Whatever.


In October H went away for 3 weeks. When he came back he was till friendly and still close.

We continued this friendship throughout November. He called and wished me a Happy Thanksgiving. Again, first time im years.

We slept together again two weeks ago.

He came over Christmas Eve and invited us for dinner. I cooked so he came over .. We had a good time. He came over early Christmas morning. Spent here until 1 and then took D8 to visit the inlaws and OW.
He kissed me goodbye, as if we were normal.

Well, when he dropped D8 off he was grouchy. I did get upset finding out he slept in the same room as OW with D8 there. It was assumed he was sleeping the couch. Out of respect for D8. Well, I opened my mouth and told him how I felt about it.
It wasn't right. I wouldn't do that to him. I didn't want D8 to think that was ok. His parents NEVER let any child sleep in the same room as their boyfriend. So it didn't end well.

H was supposed to watch D8 tonite, but wanted to switch it to yesterday. I couldn't. He said oh well, he will see her Thursday.

Now, he is acting as he was months ago. I can't deal with that agian. I told him that he was acting spiteful and childish. I was just so angry.

Now we are not speaking and he is off in his world. So what to do know??? 2009 will be better.ch an idiot, really.

[Jeanette1120]

Nothing will change until YOU CHANGE IT.

He does not respect you

He does not respect his daughter

He does not respect himself

I know it hurts, but you keep setting yourself up for this hurt.

Change it.

Change it.

Change it.

Mean what you say and say what you mean.

Do it.

Do work.

Do it FOR YOU DAMNIT and your daughter.

He is not your friend.

He uses you.

Nothing will change until YOU CHANGE IT.

[peacetoday]

Hi Kiki
I dont know what to make of it your new R with your H
I remember how you and he struggled so much
and he got friendlier
maybe he was looking back or rethinking??

We have to set boundries with these guys regarding the kids so I wouldnt beta yourself up about it
He may have needed to distance friom to much closeness and he would have found any excuse to be pissed
they are so childish
take care of yourslef and maybe set you limits and let it go
and be friendly again
not your problem if he cant be adult and accept a boundry and let it go
peace

[brandnewday]

((((HUGS))))

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

[kikifree]

Why is it everywhere I go there is this phrase:

Nothing will change until YOU CHANGE IT.

Lol..Yes, CHANGE but it does feel uncomfortable.

I'm doing it my dear friend Jeanette.

I am!

Hi Peace, I have been reading your situation and you show alot of strength. It ain't easy .

Yeah, he got closer but now is back to that person he was. I DO NOT like it at all. Not that I expected him to call but we haven't heard from him. It's like here we go again..if I let it. I can't.



At least now I know where I stand. MAKES ME FEEL IS A LITTLE NAIVE.

But not anymore. I am letting go, again.

Hi BND, thank you for the hugs.

Happy New Year to you Fabulous ladies.