I am a comtemplative person most all the time. I only very rarely act on rashness and spontaneity.
I happen to hold the view tha guys often times for various reasons that i hold tend to be more that way ..especially when interacting (or trying to) with you girls. And that is the crux of what we are regularly dealing with in the everyday on these boards. Male/female dynamics and interactions. So while I am not too heavy into generalizations and compartmentalizing and and stereotyping stuff. I think that ...
regardless of the generalizations I myself am a big time thinker
I believe they made a DaVinci stautue in my likeness or one of those esteemed sculptor's made the "Thinker"
This drives my darling crazy on one hand because she is very rash and semi-compulsive(at least in her thought ..fortunately for that)
Anyway back to the point.
I wanted to be able to meet her needs by showing compassion and understanding of how down she has always felt about her body image ever since having her daughter 20 years ago and then going through the dissolvement of brief M with my stepD's dad. She entirely did the eating to attempt to relieve stress and comfort herself. I wanted to be as supportive as i could be to help her feel comforted by me but I wanted to have the time and space to mull over what she was propsing to me and what my opinion of it was. Once again I know my opinion is only being sought as a supplemental thing . She can and will do as she chooses.
Just wished I could have kept more quiet. After attempts at that. and she can't stand quiet either (really can't stand ..as in drives her nuts ..cuz she wants to know what somebody thinks about her) so that only lasted for a short bit before I started chiming in and then when I had given her the "floor" for a little bit I am rather certain that I started my ritual of talking over her here and there and the rest is history
Trenches get dug and grenades get lobbed
But are argument while they are still happening are occuring differently and are not as severe. The go for the jugular, which is her specialty, seems to have subsided. And as I said I tried with very limited success to not talk over her.
ok T so you have it. Talk but only just enough. Also keep the fights to the minimum. You are making progress believe it or not. Good for you my friend.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
That is the passion in you T. You have a passion for many things it seems like. Flying, The Lord, and your Darling. Passion is a good thing! I need to find a passion again, other than my H.
oh so in a nutshell ..since i am usually somwhat eccentric in thought and more ..make that scatterbrained
my earlier remark that triggered the light bulb moment was when I said that I woulf need to ..........DIGEST your shared story kel
That is majorly important to me and probably a host of other guys also ..but we will keep it to me for simplicitry sake. Not that any of this sheeeeet is ever gonna be made simple. But what the heck I will put forth some sorta effort in that direction. That is uncommon for me also. I am very much a person who almost goes out of my way to not take the simpified route on anything.
I happene to be enamored by challenge. And boy did I take that to the 1 millionth degree when i got married.
So I guess I am therefore enjoying myself ..right
CAn some one plz convince me that I am enjoying myself
