Have been thinking of you, remembered you all in church today, I wanted to wish each and everyone a Merry Christmas, been busy, getting everything ready.
Keeping you all in my prayers
Subject: PAY IT FORWARD:
He almost didn't see the old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.
Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so . was he going to hurt her?
He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry.
He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was that chill which only fear can put in you.
He said, "I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you wait in the car where it's warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson." Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.
As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid.
Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.
He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed!, and, Bryan added, "And think of me."
He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.
A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. she had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.
After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin. There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: "You don't owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you.
If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you."
Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.
Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard..
She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, "Everything's going to be all right I love you, Bryan Anderson."
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
I have heard a very similar story. It really hits home this time of year. But Jeff, I think there are plenty of people that do this all the time even though it doesn't involve money...right here. Think of our own puppy. He comes here all the time giving his no nonsense advise and he has been going through hard times of his own. Healing yourself involves reaching out.
It is going to take time. I am not fooling anyone. I still cry every now and then even though the husband I married is long since gone. He was a sweet naive man. Now there is just a fogged out alien in his body. I know reaching out helps. My C saw the difference in me in just a month! This forum and my friends here save me nearly every day.
I have no doubt in my mind that there is someone out there who will be there for me as I will be there for him. In the meantime and even after I will come here. God Bless Bryan Anderson.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Kat: Think of our own puppy. He comes here all the time giving his no nonsense advise and he has been going through hard times of his own.
Yes Kat: Puppy is the Bryan in the story "Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty"
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Kat: It is going to take time. I am not fooling anyone. I still cry every now and then even though the husband I married is long since gone.I know reaching out helps. My C saw the difference in me in just a month! This forum and my friends here save me nearly every day.
I have never seen a C, you guys here have saved me, I'm still like you, I still think of W and better days, cannot believe my M ended this way, still get depressed, but getting better, thinking less and less of W and moving on more, It get's hard to come here sometimes, I just want to move on and forget all of this but you and Karen and Puppy and H4H and WDID and Cat, Sara, MC and everyone have been so helpful, I'm drawn back to post my thoughts
I've been so busy I forgot yesterday 12/22 was the day a year ago I found out about OM - time flys, need to make the most of the time I have.
Merry Christmas to all thank you soooo much, I really do mean this, you all have been so helpful and have helped me understand and move forward.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.45
But you don't always have to get into the really hard stuff. I know I come here and am saddened by all the new names. I tend to branch out slowly and stay with the people I know. I do what I can. Once the bankruptcy is filed it will be a huge weight off of me but for now I am fighting it within myself and probably can't give the best advice. I stay with the people I know.
We don't always talk about our R problems, sometimes it is just to blow off steam from the stress of the day, or to chat with friends. This forum can be what you make it. Don't stay away just because of memories of why you started posting. You can find peace here too.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I was checking in and reading Karen and Kat your posts are locked up, I was suprised to read something on Karen's.
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Karen: I mean my thought is to tell H if OW comes on my property again I'm going to kick her a**
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Kat: I have never seen OW in person, I would hate to be her if I ever do!!
Wow, ladies, ladies I thought I was the only one who thought this way, I told W way back when to keep OM away from me because if I ever get my hands on him I would beat the SH*T out of him. She knows I have a temper and she knows its better to keep us seperated.
I hope everyone had a great Christmas, mine was strange, W, Me, Kids, FIL, and friends on her side for christmas eve and then W over in the morning for Christmas morning, really surreal, bizarre, like nothing every happened, I was polite, helpful, attentive and friendly.
Looking forward to 2009, making list of things I need to do, I have to move on with my life, get in shape (better shape) I have softball to look forward to playing with the 20 and 30 year olds.
Good night all, all is well with me and the kids - I am truley blessed.
The Pretenders - Thumbelina
HUSH LITTLE BABY, DON'T YOU CRY WHEN WE GET TO TUCSON YOU'LL SEE WHY WE LEFT THE SNOWSTORMS AND THE THUNDER AND RAIN FOR THE DESERT SUN, WE'RE GONNA BE BORN AGAIN WHAT'S IMPORTANT IN THIS WORLD A LITTLE BOY, A LITTLE GIRL
HUSH LITTLE DARLING, GO TO SLEEP LOOK OUT THE WINDOW AND COUNT THE SHEEP THAT DOT THE HILLSIDES AND THE FIELDS OF WHEAT ACROSS AMERICA AS WE CROSS AMERICA WHAT'S IMPORTANT HERE TODAY THE BROKEN LINE ON THE HIGHWAY
ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD FOR YOU, GIRL THUMBELINA IN A GREAT BIG SCARY WORLD ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD FOR YOU, GIRL TAKE MY HAND AND WE'LL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS WORLD
HUSH LITTLE BABY, MY POOR LITTLE THING YOU'VE BEEN SHUFFLED ABOUT LIKE A PAWNED WEDDING RING IT MUST SEEM STRANGE, LOVE WAS HERE THEN GONE AND THE OKLAHOMA SUNRISE BECOMES THE AMARILLO DAWN WHAT'S IMPORTANT IN THIS LIFE ASK THE MAN WHO'S LOST HIS WIFE
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.70
Yeah, I think some of my anger that I direct at OW is actually anger at my H too. But it's not like she doesn't deserve it anyway, so I don't feel too guilty about that. Well, no guilt over that really. I mean she did help to break up my family and hers, and she has a history of that.
I have to admit it turns out it wasn't the OW at my house, but H's guy friend's car he was using. So he did/does respect me a little bit I guess, and I do appreciate that!
Sounds good to make a list or goals or whatever. I was doing really good at working on mine and this last month kind of stopped on that. I want to start working on them again, too!
Well, I guess you had a good Christmas it sounds like altho strange. I guess I went through that last year when we were celebrating together although H had the OW for 2 months at that point...I think actually Christmas with just me and the kids was better, but next year H will have them Christmas day so that will suck!!! Karen
Jeff, unless you have been keeping up with my thread, you wouldn't know that just two weeks ago I saw a picture of OW for the first time. The pic. was on FB. I about got sick. I thought he would have traded up not down. I just kind of freaked.
I have been dealing with the D ok, just having to deal with the B is hard. I will get through this, I will.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Jeff, unless you have been keeping up with my thread, you wouldn't know that just two weeks ago I saw a picture of OW for the first time. The pic. was on FB. I about got sick. I thought he would have traded up not down. I just kind of freaked.
kat
I'm right there with you, Kat!!! We can B together! I don't think it is trading down, well yeah maybe it is, but from what I've seen in my sitch and others posted here it seems like they almost go for the opposite of the LBS. I'm a devoted mom, OW is an absent mom, she's into her career, she's gone through 3 marriages, I'm a stay married forever no matter what type, I'm a Christian active in the church, she's a ho... And the truth is if he wants someone like that, then I'm not the right person for him obviously. Karen
Good evening Ladies, Kat I have been keeping up with your and Karen's post. It had been a little while since I checked them.
When I saw the comments you both posted, even though Karen I knew it wasn't OW's car as you said, the comments were before you knew. It was just the comments, I learned the anger still lingers as it does with me.
Such a strange world we live in, why couldn't I have met someone like you two ladies, years ago, devoted mothers, willing to work on your M, etc. instead I ended up with someone who doesn't have the same values as me (being polite) I haven't changed, W apparently tried to change and be something she was not. (W and Mother)
Looking forward to new year, hope someday to find love again.
Need to work on myself, so much work to do, I'm not looking to change who I am, but I need to be more open more social, get into better shape, get some projects done around the house, schedule more time with the kids (fun time, camping, etc) get my budget in order, talk to Pastor about an annulment, etc. going to be a busy 2009 and I'm looking forward to it.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.70
