Heck at this point I think I would fall over for a hug! You are going to find that someone special that is going to appreciate you and love you just the way you are. I know several of us are at that point where we just don't see it, but truly it is going to happen. Call it intuition!
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Me again. I just read through this thread. The financial part really does suck, doesn't it? But, if you think about, better a gate keeper in heaven than a king in hell. Money isn't everything, it comes and goes, but we only get one chance at this life. My finances are going to suck--hell I have to rent a room out in my house and depend on her to share our car. Not exactly ideal. When we bought the house (all of 2 1/2 months ago) we were talking about having another baby and adding on a room. We were also going to redo our basement and kitchen. Well so much for those plans. But you will make it, and I will make it. Get that pool table on your own someday. Remember, you can be the gate keeper and she can be the king (or queen I guess). CR
I think that's a great idea. Root out all the selfish people with that one. If they won't let you have your pool table room, then I think you should move on. I'm trying to think what my dealbreaker can be...I guess put up with my kids and maybe even like them a little? That's probably enough & most important for me! Karen
Some of my best Christmases were after my divorce, when I had no money to buy gifts for anyone, except a token gift for the kids.... there were about 4-5 lean years.
One year I only had $10 for each kid and that was the year I told them there was no Santa Claus. I'm an idiot. That year Santa showed up on Christmas eve. One family showed up with a tree, lots of gifts for me and each of the kids. My BF sent me gifts for the kids in the mail and wrapping paper so I could choose which for each kid.
Another year, the parish sent me $100.
Another year a family adopted us.
I never 'applied' for any of this.
The first year depressed me. The following years I trusted God and rejoiced with each gift. I also have SEVERAL car gift stories...I'll save that for Easter, because that's when THAT started.
It's humbling....because when we were married, we didn't want for anything.
And what I love about you, is you obey God.
I KNOW God put some things on the hearts of certain people in our path, who did not listen. Most of the gifts that were given to us were from folks who could not afford to give to us. And they did anyway.
TRUST IN HIM.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY JESUS!!!!
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Yeah, I know what you mean though!!! Karen