So it seems strange to post here... And I hope I am not ahead of myself... I've been separated from my H since June when he moved out of our house. I worked really hard and reduced negativity fairly quickly, so we had been in contact really for most of the time. Sometimes it was just a few minutes on the phone, as time went on it increased to occasional visits, then staying overnight, then weekends, then H would back off again. I've always had hope, but it seemed like even though we'd spend time together there was still a huge wall between us (the future/marriage).
And then right after Thanksgiving I layed it out for him how much I still loved him (in part because I found out he was on the verge of an EA, maybe more). And then a sudden change! Since that time it has been ML, saying I love you, and mostly warm fuzzy things. No real talk of what happened.
H still lives in his apt (he's finishing up grad school) but is spending weekends at the house. I actually anticipate that this is how it will likely be until he graduates. I haven't asked.
He is taking me to a friends x-mas party which is our first public outing in 6 months. I am also going with him to his parents x-mas.
I am so delighted to have 'old' H back, but also scared! Is this for real? This is what I wanted, but how do I keep it going?
We are going on a 2 week trip in January to visit places he is interviewing for after school. Lots of time in the car together. Luckily we've always traveled well together- so I think this will be great opportunity.
This is still new- I struggle with trying not to worry when my H is a bit more distant.
I'd really appreciate any tips and advice from those who have made it to this stage!
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
Posting to bump up your thread :). I don't feel I'm ready to be posting in piecing quite yet, but it's great to see you here!
What new kinds of things are you dealing with now? Has your H openly recommitted or is this implied? How do you deal with your H being distant?
I'd love to hear your answers, and I hope to join you on this board soon!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
