Okay - Posting under my anonymous identity to ask a question. (Most of you know me as an oldtimer here).
Things are not going well with H and heading towards a separation. I'll write more about that later.
My question today is this. I know that there is a new trend for men to be grooming their pubic hair. Have recently discovered H (late 40's) has been shaving his huevos.
Yes, I am well aware that this is high on the list of signs your H is having an affair. He adamantly denies same, says he learned his lesson last time. I think I believe him, but suspect he is in the "preparing to sleep with other women" phase and simply being honorable enough this time to get out first.
So I guess my question is - is this common? Is everyone out there doing this, or do most guys in their 40's and 50's still leave their pubic hair alone? (I know younger people are removing hair from almost everywhere). Are there genuine practical considerations (as my husband claims) other than sexual ones which make this worth doing? And am I the last person in America who thinks that all this attention to pubic hair is a sign of the decline of the empire????
not common with my h. he never even changed his appearance like so many I have read about. still has and wears the same old clothes he has had for years. same hairstyle, too.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
But seriously, Yes I think it's generational and some other things and I doubt if many of the men on this board will admit to you that they do it too!
When my H was addicted to mountain and road biking he got rid of it all - underarms, legs, and um, down there. Those tight biker shorts and long hours on that little seat were the reasons.
But I think for many men, and women too, it's just "freeing".
Perhaps it's a chance for you to do a 180? Let him know you like it and you're willing to experiment too?!!!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Hey - I will chime in on this strange subject. My H always shaved his chest & kept his um down there groomed as well. But then my H & I are not hip on a lot of body hair either. My H always called it man scaping
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Pre-MLC, I would periodically find hair trimmings in the toilet from my H's "man-scaping". I thought it was odd but later "man-scaping" actually became a quite humorous discussion at a dinner party we attended. I was surprised that it was not as uncommon as I thought it was!
I have to admit I was quite taken aback last night when I read this thread, but wonders never cease when someone is in crisis. So, today, I met up w/a really good male friend who knows all about what's happening in the strange world of life and I posed your situation to him.
He told me that this is a new fad w/the younger generation. However, it is also very popular w/people who are heavy into the porn scene. My question to you is this, have you found any porn sites on your computer? Books lying around, him wanting to try something new and kinky?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I can't really weigh in on the actual question, I haven't seen those parts of H for quite some time.
I did want to say to E, sorry that you're headed for separation. I hope the other areas of your life are successful, I know you've worked for it. I hope you find peace.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
