I am sorry you are hurting. This time of year is rough.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Hey Hope, Glad you are getting your tree going, mine is up lights on the floor, but not on the tree! Tired after today's game very emotional ending. Hope your night is pleasant. Thinking about you!
Alien sighting this morning. The Alien is back. Very defensive about his actions and the pain that he has cause me. One minute he is sad becuase his wife is hurting and the next he is cold and mean and blaming his cheating on the fact that our marriage was bad. He even said that he would never have cheated if our M had been good. Ok, whatever. I'm detaching and side stepping off his coaster.
When did the man I married become such a dick?
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Thanks MT, it just reinforces to me that "he ain't" right. Kind of makes it easier, in a way. Does that make sense? It's easier for me to detach and not hurt as much when he is acting in a way that is forein to how he or anyone else would act in the same situation. Normally that is.
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Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
I understand Hope, that is my whole reasoning for feeling like I do about my H, it is obvious to me this isn't his normal personality. When people say why are you still with him or trying to work with him while he is doing this, I say because this is not him. He didn't act like this for 14 1/2 years that I knew him before this started, so I am hopeful he will recover.
morning my namesake, so sorry you are getting the alien back, I got mine back last thurs nite. down to the sorry then to the blame. i had hoped I had sucked all that out and was dealing with it so none of us had too!
did you get anything done on the tree?
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Morning sweetie! Yes, the tree is up and the box is back down in the basement. It is a pre-lit one, but you still have to connect all of the strands. That is done so it looks very nice, just waiting for some "fluffing" and the ornaments.
I have a follow up appointment with my Radiologist this afternoon and am looking forward to being home early. I think that I will probably start on the decorations.
I suppose I know that this blame thing is just a result of the guilt being too much for them to carry all alone. Sorry that you are getting the same thing.
We'll get thru this you know. God made us strong for a good reason. I just keep reminding myself that I won't be given more than I can bear.
Love you BG.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
