Tawnya, you are worth being treated better and don't you ever, ever forget it. Have you and I made mistakes? You bet we have. Do we deserve the treatment we have gotten? Hell no!
I think you should give him a wake - up call. Have his stuff all packed when he comes home from his little trip. But that's just me.
My husband only packed for a few days at his mom's when he left even though I told him he wasn't coming and going to get things. I start packing everything he owns tonight. His next trip home he can start hauling.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
{{{Carp}}} OK..you win..yucky weather..LOL..I will NOT complain about my rainy 40 degree weather again (scouts honor LOL)! Crazy enough, it was pretty much emotion free, no crying or anything like that..it was a strange but freeing feeling...
{{{Tom}}} Aww thank you..from Mr Detachment, that means a LOT..seriously!
{{{Wifey}}} Thank you my friend..as you are also worth being treated better..I'm so glad you didn't have to leave your house or your bed cause I know you love it! YOU are amazingly strong and I am so impressed with your fortitude and strength my friend I will have to see how I feel about the packing stuff up thing, he'll be gone 2 days longer than I will, after my girl trip this weekend
Thank you!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
I'm proud of you for that one too. You handled it nicely for sure.
I do want to caution that you still might have some bad days...don't think that just cause you "dropped the rope" you won't feel badly at times. I want you to know that because the first one you have will feel like such a setback...just be prepared!!! Cause, you are awesome, and I don't want anything like a little sadness to knock you off track!!!
Yay for Tawnya!!! You are doing great, and I'm looking forward to the weekend.
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Very strong - and it's just so great to read about you finding your self-respect again - so very important. Pay close attention to what Amy M said - as dropping the rope does bring an intense peace at first - but it is followed with what I suppose is the grieving process - and it will test your resolve - but you can do it - I know you can just from how you approached your H. Hold on to that self respect, Tawnya...taking care of yourself and your kids - that's the gift you are giving yourself.
Tawnya Very very nice work. I am very happy for you. It is a big step. I know it is not easy to drop the rope. I applaud your effort. It was a strong message. I hope your H gets the idea. Fear less and love more for yourself and your kids. Keep up the good work.
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
{{Love}} Thank you for your kind words my friend and I hope you are doing great today
{{Amy}} Thank you for the warning..I appreciate it and will hopefully remember this convo when I head back here in tears at some point in the near future I also am REALLY looking forward to this weekend even more so!
{{Tomato}} I didn't get to finish reading your thread, wanted to give it my full attention, which I will do right after I start dinner now that I'm home from work today! Hope you are more peaceful today my friend!
{{Carlos}} Thank YOU for the vote of confidence that I can do this..come back and remind me if I forget okay? I hope to give my children and myself (and in reality my husband too by my not being nasty, still taking the high road) the gift of knowing what love should be and is..that IS my goal As far as the self respect, I really didn't know it was gone..but I know it now! LOL
{{NW}} THANK you..I like that "fear less and love more"..I pray that for all of us that, even tho the thing we'd want to do would be to not keep our hearts open wide, after the hurt and pain we've all gone thru, I do pray that we all still take the chance to love more..and to love ourselves no matter what
Gotta go start the water for the spaghetti and then off to read about a Tomato
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
I will have to see how I feel about the packing stuff up thing, he'll be gone 2 days longer than I will, after my girl trip this weekend 