Merry Christmas! I hope that you are having a wonderful day, and that your heart is overflowing with peace and love and the guidance of the Holy Spirit. May God continue to bless you and your loved ones, and may you find the happiness and love that you deserve.
Thank you so much for all of the support and encouragement that you have given me. It has been a godsend many times over.
Christmas was pretty good all things considered. The kids had a great Christmas and that's the most important thing.
The kids and I went north to visit my sis and mom and 3yr old nephew. We came home on Christmas Eve. The W came over late Christmas Eve night so she could be there for Christmas morning Santa visit. By all accounts, Christmas morning was "normal". Santa was very generous. The W's dad and StpM came over about midday. The kids and I went to W's Mom's later in the day; the W followed. That afternoon was spent with SIL and 1yr old nephew, W's Cousin from South Car.
Everything seemed "normal" there as well. W joking around with me, picking at me, acting like old times. Later in the evening after I had brought the kids home and she was done visiting her ailing g.mother in the hospital; she started texting me:
w: Do you want me to bring you a couple of the roast beef and Swiss sandwiches back with me? (she obviously had heard me say that afternoon how much I liked them and missed a sandwich shoppe in Savannah that made great roast beef and swiss sandwiches) me: Sure, sounds great.
w: Can I bring you anything else? me: Yea, a couple of Dr. Pepper's and my monitor from stpFIL.
w: monitor? me: yea, 20 inch computer monitor that stpFIL is giving me. Just ask him. Thx
w: Ok..leaving in a little bit. bringing (cousin) over with me and some beer; that ok? me: yea..keep texting..everytime you send a text my night appears to be getting better and better..lol
So she and her cousin show up (sans beer). I have a few in the frig. W goes to sleep on the couch and Cousin and I help finish a Clone Wars lego set with my S. Drink a few beers and as I'm taking him back to his g.parents; we start discussing crazy women. If you remember, he's the one I'm close to and he's had his share of batchitt crzy too.
His comments were "I hope you know that the whole family is behind you no matter what happens." I replied that I knew and that I appreciated his comments. He mentioned that he knew my W was crazy and was kinda surprised we made it this long. Anyway, we had a good time. I can't really complain about my Christmas.
W woke up this morning and made breakfast for the D. Then gathered some more clothes from the bedroom and took them with her. Said she'd see the kids Sunday. D told her that "I miss you Mommy." Didn't seem to have much of an effect, at least outwardly. I told the W that I was going to start packing her clothes that were in the bedroom; she just said, "no problem."
So Christmas over, time marches on and so does the the unraveling of my family.
I don't wanna be the girl who laughs the loudest Or the girl who never wants to be alone I don't wanna be that call at 4 o'clock in the morning 'Cos I'm the only one you know in the world that won't be home
The sun is blinding I stayed up again I am finding That's not the way I want my story to end
I'm safe Up high Nothing can touch me But why do I feel this party's over? No pain Inside You're like protection How do I feel this good sober?
I don't wanna be the girl who has to fill the silence Crying scares me cause it screams the truth Please don't tell me that we had that conversation I won't remember, save your breath, 'cos what's the use?
The night is calling? And it whispers to me softly come and play I am falling And If I let myself go I'm the only one to blame
I'm safe Up high Nothing can touch me But why do I feel this party's over? No pain Inside You're like perfection How do I feel this good sober?
I'm coming down, coming down, coming down Spinning 'round, spinning 'round, spinning 'round Looking for myself Sober
When it's good, then it's good, it's so good till it goes bad Till you're trying to find the you that you once had I have heard myself cry, never again Broken down in agony just tryna find a fit
I'm safe Up high Nothing can touch me But why do I feel this party's over? No pain Inside You're like perfection How do I feel this good sober
No pain Inside Nothing can touch me But why do I feel this party's over? No pain Inside You're like perfection How do I feel this good sober?
Will I ever feel this good sober? Tell me, no no no no no pain How do i feel this good sober?
Hang in there man. It's good to know that you have a friend on the "inside" that knows for certain that your W is nuts. We all sense it based on her non-reactions to the children but he knows her and KNOWS she's crazy!
You are one tough guy Tom. Your endurance impresses me. Keep on moving forward with your life and know that better things are coming in your future because YOU will make them better.
Take care and Happy New Year!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
{{{Tom}}} Is one of the many guys on these boards that just amaze me and give me hope for men in general YOU sound like you had such a good night and I'm so glad you got to hang with your cousin that you enjoy and had such a good attitude thru all of the crap
Hopefully, just like a cocoon, when the unraveling is done, a beautiful new butterfly of your life will emerge (I KNOW that was a girlie analogy..but gimme a break LOL)
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
MC Glade you keep yourself open for any possibilities that could arise. I myself kept myself open for about 3 weeks, kinda considered it my last try. But i got the answer i was waiting for on xmas eve. So we got thru xmas, i thanked her for making our last xmas together a good one, and it was special, so thank you. So now back to the moving forward stage for me. All xmas stuff removed, and ready for what the new year holds for me. I think you did really well, just wanted to let you know that. Take care and will be thinking about you and your family.
Me-39 STBXW-42 together 20yrs M-17 Kids-2 D-18 S-16 Bomb-96 Bomb-2005 bomb- 3/2008 for a year Separated 5/08 Filing in July Today.... Slowly learning a new life!
one more thing, im proud of you, you did a very good job. You were open for whatever, good job, just wanted to let u know.
James
Me-39 STBXW-42 together 20yrs M-17 Kids-2 D-18 S-16 Bomb-96 Bomb-2005 bomb- 3/2008 for a year Separated 5/08 Filing in July Today.... Slowly learning a new life!
hey tom, thanks for the email back. you did so good gettig thru xmas, and getting yourself and the kids thru it all, and also helping us along the way. you are an amazing man, give the kids a hug from me. love ya bud
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I applaud you for all you have done with your wife. Hang in there. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job. And I must agree with Tawnya it is refreshing to see a man doing all this. It gives us women hope!!
Stay positive and your New Year will be bring you much satisfaction esp when you least expect it.
