I was frustrated with the lack of anything on Saturday and sent him a text. "Not sure if u got my message w/ my work schedule. I wanted to talk in person. But it seems u have no desire to be married so lets just end this. I need closure."
He replied on Sunday morning saying maybe we could talk later that day. I replied that I worked til 8 and he never responded.
Other than that just worked all weekend.
Had yesterday and today off. Got a lot of cleaning and laundry and relaxing done. Going to cook dinner for R tonight.
Hope you all are well.
I'm making mulled hot cider. Who wants some?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I havent had the chance to read your threads yet, but I 100% know what you meant by closure. I still live with W and I feel like if she doesnt want to be married then GTFO.
Michelle, Closure is like a ...gift. Especially where you are at for the last few months. I know the feeling. I hope he soon finds time to talk to you and that you get the answers/closure you need... xxx K
Sorry H isn't cooperating with getting together to talk. Have you thought about what you will do if he decides he WON'T file? What if he says he wants to work it out?
I hope you two can get together soon to figure something out. Limboland sucks.
Dinner was fine other than me having to make two pots of rice since I got distracted and burned one LOL.
This whole thing with H is really frustrating me. And making me more and more convinced that things can't be worked out. I mean, we can't even be friends let alone anything else. He's still not putting any effort into this. And I'm tired.
I really don't wanna go to work today. This time of year is so stressful. People are so obnoxious and I'm so drained when I get home from work. I just gotta hang in there for a couple weeks though I guess lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I'm confused thuogh, you say "I mean, we can't even be friends let alone anything else. He's still not putting any effort into this.".. but you have been dating someone !?
And early on, when H first expressed interest in getting back together, yuo were seeing HG? And I vaguely remember him wanting to meet up with you (and go to a wedding?) and you saying no you were busy?
So do you reckon he got discouraged by your muted response? Or, maybe as he said to you he has depression (?) and is in IC, he doesnt have the energy, or confidence to work on it? Can you just call him up and ask him how he is, instead of IMing? Try a softer, personal approach?? He did say you were the best thing that ever happened to him, so I am sure he wont mind a phonecall!
I dont know, its confusing, but perhaps your 'energy' has been diverted with these 2 other guys and maybe you have been TOO detached!? Or maybe your H, like you say, is just making no effort at all.. probably the latter I would say.
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
If you're done, then it's pretty much a no brainer. However, if you're leaning towards possible reconciliation (provided that is what H wants as well), what can you do to help with getting things back on track? It can't be you doing all the work though. Takes two.
Anyhow....Obnoxious customers....Yeah, I don't miss them at all!
(((((Michelle)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
No, wasn't seeing HG. Didn't even meet HG until after H got back together with TAP and then picked those fights a couple weeks later (in that order of course).
He did invite me to the wedding on like a day's notice, but I had to work. Nothing I could do about that. Only seen him once since then I think. Haven't talked to him hardly at all. Still have that uncashed check, and he still owes me a few hundred dollars.
I am pretty fed up with the whole thing. He doesn't respond to my texts or IMs half the time, so why am I even bothering to send them?
((((((everyone))))))))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Going to cook dinner for R tonight.
