I read an article 2 yrs ago by Newman from 40/60 that said this time of year more based on hormonal changes and lack of daylight is when these MLC'ers take it to a whole new level. I can see by the amt of posts and new posters. It was dec 4th when my H filed.....gave me the papers infront of my 2 GF's! Yup just hang in there....share your stories here of their insideous behavior and you will see you are not alone and it bears a common thread. So hop off the coaster and on the curb and lets have a party.....WHO is bringing the chocolate?????
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
i just made a big batch of chocolate truffles. no d papers from my h. he seems to get more sentimental this time of year.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Time of the year huh...? Well, I guess for me the LBS, this is a hard time...I miss my marriage. Miss my life. Miss my H. I hate that it was all give to someone else.
Sorry rough day.
Hope all is well with you sweety ! xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I think the holidays are tough for everyone. I know that my h was extremely depressed the last 2 Christmas's and didn't even come around. I am hopeful this year he will make a showing.
Patti how are you doing?
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
well alot of the depression is actually brought on by the lack of daylite...not the holidays. Of course they dont help matters any. We suffer too. We get to see spouses playing all is well with their OW's playing house or happy couple.....but my H eluded to me it really wasnt by then, infact the shine had wore off after the 1st 3 months. I started this thread for people to come to to realize they werent alone this time of year when spouses behavior rocked the ricter scale.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I think the media pays a large part in this portraying the loving happy families spending time and money together for the perfect family time. I think the reality for many families is often v different. Even when it is a "normal" family group, tensions arise and disagreements occur. Especially when everyone is "forced" to spend hours / days with people who although they may be family they rarely see except for brief visits. Volunteer work is the best as you actually gain far more than you give.
Bottom line is it will be what we make it. Poor me I,m all alone so I will just be sad and make everyone else feel guilty or Great I have time for me and do what I want, arn't I lucky, no slaving over a hot stove for hours so people can stuf themselves then fall asleep.
rough day.