Lots of things going on at the moment, so I'll try and keep my update brief.
My mums been in the hospital this weekend with breathing difficulties and chest pains, if you add to that her diabetes and high blood pressure, then she was in a pretty bad way when she got admitted. Anyway the doc's have checked her out and run all sorts of test and we think she'll be allowed home tomorrow. I think the most that they had to do was drain some fluid from her lungs, but the heart scan came back ok.
I went out with some good buddies on Saturday night, I got absolutely "trashed" but was still well enough to take D7 swimming in the morning, that cold water around your neither regions really sobers you up.
D7 is a great kid but she's having a few problems in school and at her dance class with other kids picking on her cos she's "different". Anyway we're dealing with that and we should get her back to her happy self soon.
I got my Sat Nav working, that wasn't too much of a technical challenge, so I'm gonna set my sights a bit higher with two other projects. First try repair the house alarm, I've not put that back since all the house renovations were completed, also some central heating boiler maintenance. Actually I think I should leave the boiler until the weather warms up, as I could get myself in trouble if it didn't work first time.
W has had to upp her meds cos her lung condition has flared up a little, add that to her busy job and she's always tired in the evenings and I find that I'm having to wake her to take her last meds. Both W and D7 are in bed by 9pm fast asleep. I think W is now relising how much she depends on me as I've had a few ILY recently. But overall we are getting on ok.
So I'm not posting here as much but I'm still here on her most days reading and rooting for those of you who are still in a struggle with your M.
I am still reading, not posting as much either these days, generally just journaling myself. Feel I've got to a good place and just trying to give a little advice to others now. Maybe you could do similar, I find it very rewarding and least I can do given this place and people here saved me
(oh, that's not written in a guilt trip type way either, it just worked for me and were all different)
Hi Lanzo - Sorry to hear about your mom and W having lung problems. Maybe some of it is weather related. On a brighter note, I am so happy that your marriage is still recovering.
Kids do tend to pick out differences and it can cause some hurt. My son also had some teasing in his school recently because of his racial makeup, braininess and political beliefs (funny that 2nd graders get all worked up about that). I first urged him to not let talk of others bother him and I also let the teacher know by an email. The teacher had some circle time talks with the class about how to appropriately share ideas and feelings, how to best handle a situation that makes one uncomfortable or hurt, and how to remove ones self from unhealthy situations. He seems to be handling it very well now.
My mum seemed to be retaining water and the majority of it collected in her lungs, add diabetes and blood pressure and it all adds up to a fatal combination. Fortunatly the doc managed to treat her and flush out all the fluids using some good old fashion methods. W made an ironic comment about the whole situation, she said to me that I know your mum is not well but you must remember to spend time with us. I thought this ironic as any time her Dad was ill she would shoot off and leave me and D7 to fend for ourselves, but I guess these words shows that things are improving with us.
The teasing with D7 is becuse she is a diffent colour and our social background is not as well heeled as the other kids, We knew it was getting bad when she told us she didn't want to go to school and she fiegned illness to miss dance class. We have mentioned it to her class teacher and to her dance teacher so we hope they will deal with it in the correct manner. I am teaching D7 the differeces between different colurs and races and hopefully some tolerance and compassion to others I wish the other parents would do this too.
Sorry to hear about the health issues. Also sorry to hear that both yur child and Kerry's are struggling with some type of "visable minority" issues. I can't help but think that this type of behaviour in a child must stem from the home. i know that we (my stbx and I) were very carefull with D8 to make sure that she knew and knows that differences need to be embraced and not frowned upon. I guess it shows that even though some recent events in American politics are encouraging there is still alot of work to be done in the homes around the world. I grew up with this not on a visable minority difference but to a much lesser extent with my family name which is of course Italian. I know it does not compare but because of my small negative experience, I try to make sure that D8 welcomes other cultures. Anyhow, sorry about the length of the post, i am glad that your marriage situation seems to be improving. Take care of yourself Lan and your loved ones.
Hi Lan, Good to hear you are holding up well under problems, that W is uttering ILY's and you have some GAL activities and projects in the pipeline. I too got myself a relatively low-end Sat Nav (or GPS as we say here) - I wish I'd gotten one earlier as I have a poor sense of direction and my W was impatient and not good with maps and we used to argue heatedly when we got lost. I still need to use my head tho' as this thing is far from being smart.
Since the start of the year I've tried to focus on other stuff rather than our M and it seems to be paying off, mind you it does help to know there is no OM in the background.
My Sat Nav is fine I've managed to correct a couple of minor bugs and it is a good thing to have in the car. Funny thing, W has a Sat Nav in her car but she still phones me at work to ask me for direction. lol.
hi there Lan - just "driving past" to wish you all the best"
I wish you all the best with your new sat nav techno-googly! Really I do! Its never quite worked out well for me!
i have a tale!...we have a sat nav at work...and last easter i "borrowed" it to get me to an outdoor centre in Scotland - I was going there for a course...
Anyhow - all was going well...up through England, into the lowlands and then into the Highlands...turn left, turn right all fine...and anyhow - the place I was going to was close to Aviemore...it was snowing ... quite heavily... the lovely lady (on the sat nav) took me down this road ...which was fine but 7 miles down she declared..."you have now reached your destination"
!!! WTF!!! I was in the middle of nowhere!!!
On a road that was packed with snow with standard car tyres!
Lan - it took me another 2 hours to travel 3 miles - with no help from M'Lady! aka Sat-Nav-Lil!
Great job on getting one sorted but use sparingly I think!
hows the training coming on??? I won at badminton tonight so honour is restored!!!
Are you coming into The City for Chinese New Year on Sunday?
Best and KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
We had a similar situation with the Sat Nav when we travelled to a cricket club near Bury, the SAT Nav wanted to direct us through a farm yard and out on a dirt track at the other end, easy for a 4 wheel drive utility vehicle or a tractor but no chance in a Ford focus. So we have learnt that if you know better (than the Sat Nav) do better.
Originally Posted By: Lanzo
First try repair the house alarm, I've not put that back since all the house renovations were completed.
I need to get on with this one cos W mentioned it yesterday, I was going to say it was on my list, but I better just do it as actions speak louder than words.
My Mum is much better and was due to come home yesterday but thay have had an outbreak of D & V (diarrhoea and vomiting) on the hospital ward so the patients are being quarantined for a couple of days, so I think it will be the weekend before she comes home.
I won't be in the city for the Chinese new year celebrations, was there last year and it gets more spectacular all the time.
My training hasn't really got off the ground as I've had too many interruptions in such a short space of time but I'm sure I'll be ok in the long term.
