Everhopeful is now Hopeless

[EverHopeful]

Well. That's all folks.

I have not been around for awhile because it was just too painful and I teetered on having hope. I was in divorce court yesterday and saw no semblance of the person that I was married to. He is cold, business like, calculating, heartless and ready to move on with Little Miss Sunshine.

Nothing else to do but try to figure out how to move on and save face.

Question of the day, how do you really move on and when do you really just give up hope ? I dont see us being able to work this out, he is fully engrossed in his new life.

I on the other hand, need one and don't know how to get it.

Happy Thanksgiving to each of you and your wonderful families.

EVER, aka Now Hopeless (smile)

[Briget]

Hopeful,

It's time for you to start to focus on making your life what you want.That dream may be gone hon.But your still able to dream.Time for a new one.

How do you move on? Well thats up to you.It's a big ol world out there.What part of it do you want.

Later Friend
Briget

[Reincarnated]

Ever--
You keep the hope...but it is a hope for new, better things. I see from your date that you have been at this a long, long time.
And the world keeps turning, all the while.

Maybe it is time to look in a new direction.

Now, I remember reading advice like this and wanting to scream - this isn't the way it is supposed to be! It isn't what I want! I worked to hard - for what?!

I'll tell you what - for YOU!

Now, keep working just as hard, for you, a new you. You can do it.

So many of us here have done it, because we've had to. You will too, with time and focus on the good things.

Use Thanksgiving to look at all that is positive and right in your world right now...

[cat03]

Baby, at times it seems this will never go away, but you can USE this pain to move your life forward. A great book is "the spiritual divorce" because it teaches you to use D as a catalyst for a new and better life.
You've been on this trial by fire as long as me (2005), hon, youve' given it your all, and maybe now is time to accept it is over and forge a new good live for you.

The person I married is gone, the good memories are in my heart, the good man that loved me. The zombie that now looks like my good H is someone I would never marry nor think to have in my life, a man who wouldn't care less for me and someone I wouldnt' date if my life depended on it.
We had good times and those times I'll cherish in the back of my mind. This new stranger isnt' my H and will never be him again, so I move on to the next segment of my life, because there still so much you and I can do, so much for us up ahead.
You are in my prayers honey)))))))))

[cat03]

hope you are doing well hon)))))))))) will pray for you

[Reincarnated]

cat, you are so good to check in on our friends...I have to remember to do that, find people who get buried on the threads...

Ever, we are thinking about you...

[cat03]

I wonder how many just stopped coming but were still hurting deeply. I just joined a meetup group comprised of single parents, it was sad to see so many moms (a few dads) with kiddies of 2, 4, 6 years of age, first time parents now single parents.